"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This girl i met online thru a dating site. we dated once and i think we both liked each other. She did say laters "I had a wonderful time". I am looking after an LTR here.

I do call her and she also calls me up from india even though its quite expensive for her. She frequently sends SMSs too and we chat too.
she compliments me on my looks and says she wants me 2 come back soon.

We both are in orkut.com (myspace kind of site) we post each other msgs too.
However, she has other guys as friends in tht site. she just complemented him tht he looks stunning in his pic. the guy is nice looking. she does hv the habit of complimenting ppl a lot but i guess i dont like tht.

Should i be concerned coz she complimented some other guy?


another thing guys,


she uses these phrases a lot at times:

"ur so cute"

"ur so sweet and innocent."

"ur a smart guy"

is this good or ?
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Same girl as last thread?? She doesn't sound too conservative to me.:rolleyes:

If she is complimenting other dudes this means she wants their attention!!! And you know to where that leads!

Don't get too attached to her - when you get back she may be with someone else!!

Don't believe a woman's words!!!
 

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hi there

i do understand wht u r getting at. but she compliments girls too not just guys and we r not committed yet.
Considering this, as i asked before should i be concerned ?
 
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pgbiswas79 said:
i do understand wht u r getting at. but she compliments girls too not just guys and we r not committed yet.
Considering this, as i asked before should i be concerned ?
Complimenting a girl and complimenting a guy on looks is a BIGdifference!!

It is not a matter of concern because she is not your wife however you should know that she is inviting competition by making such flattering remarks to men!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Dude...whoa. You're thinking way too much about this. Quit analyzing everything she said and does. Play your cards as best you can and don't worry bout the rest.
 

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One thing is for sure, you cannot act jealous. Also, I'm not sure what conversations you have had, but you may risk thinking the relationship is more serious than she does. Two things to be careful about. But you cannot be jealous or look insecure, which is difficult to do for insecure low self esteem people.
 

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another thing guys,


she uses these phrases a lot at times:

"ur so cute"

"ur so sweet and innocent."

"ur a smart guy"

is this good or ?
 
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pgbiswas79 said:
another thing guys,


she uses these phrases a lot at times:

"ur so cute"

"ur so sweet and innocent."

"ur a smart guy"

is this good or ?
Sweet and innocent means she knows that you are a virgin -- which means that she is NOT!!

Cute is a boyish term -- you are 27 - maybe that is the way she talks

You are smart means that you are smart!
 

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Strange this coz i actually got laid once.
I think tht she is a virgin too but cant really vouch for tht.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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pgbiswas79 said:
Strange this coz i actually got laid once.
I think tht she is a virgin too but cant really vouch for tht.
She doesn't see you as aggressive - I take it that you are the more soft spoken and gentle type.
 

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At times i am though i am impulsive too. And why should i show my aggression to her right on the first date and in our chat or phone convo ?
Tht might scare her off. Another thing she is a psychologist.
Do u think i should finish up my work here and get back to the girl ?
coz we hv been seperated fr almost 2 months and only use chat/phone/SMS as a medium of comm.

Nowadays, I am in australia looking at the skimpy clad aussie babes.
 
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A man's job is to take care of business first - then pleasurable pursuits!

"aggression" meaning "a "bad guy" image

It may be that your conversations portray yourself as sweet and innocent in what you say or how you say it!!
 
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