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This girl i met online thru a dating site. we dated once and i think we both liked each other. She did say laters "I had a wonderful time". I am looking after an LTR here.

I do call her and she also calls me up from india even though its quite expensive for her. She frequently sends SMSs too and we chat too.
she compliments me on my looks and says she wants me 2 come back soon.

We both are in orkut.com (myspace kind of site) we post each other msgs too.
However, she has other guys as friends in tht site. she just complemented him tht he looks stunning in his pic. the guy is nice looking. she does hv the habit of complimenting ppl a lot but i guess i dont like tht.

Should i be concerned coz she complimented some other guy?


another thing guys,


she uses these phrases a lot at times:

"ur so cute"

"ur so sweet and innocent."

"ur a smart guy"

is this good or ?
 
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Same girl as last thread?? She doesn't sound too conservative to me.:rolleyes:

If she is complimenting other dudes this means she wants their attention!!! And you know to where that leads!

Don't get too attached to her - when you get back she may be with someone else!!

Don't believe a woman's words!!!
 

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hi there

i do understand wht u r getting at. but she compliments girls too not just guys and we r not committed yet.
Considering this, as i asked before should i be concerned ?
 
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pgbiswas79 said:
i do understand wht u r getting at. but she compliments girls too not just guys and we r not committed yet.
Considering this, as i asked before should i be concerned ?
Complimenting a girl and complimenting a guy on looks is a BIGdifference!!

It is not a matter of concern because she is not your wife however you should know that she is inviting competition by making such flattering remarks to men!!
 

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I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Dude...whoa. You're thinking way too much about this. Quit analyzing everything she said and does. Play your cards as best you can and don't worry bout the rest.
 

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One thing is for sure, you cannot act jealous. Also, I'm not sure what conversations you have had, but you may risk thinking the relationship is more serious than she does. Two things to be careful about. But you cannot be jealous or look insecure, which is difficult to do for insecure low self esteem people.
 

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another thing guys,


she uses these phrases a lot at times:

"ur so cute"

"ur so sweet and innocent."

"ur a smart guy"

is this good or ?
 
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pgbiswas79 said:
another thing guys,


she uses these phrases a lot at times:

"ur so cute"

"ur so sweet and innocent."

"ur a smart guy"

is this good or ?
Sweet and innocent means she knows that you are a virgin -- which means that she is NOT!!

Cute is a boyish term -- you are 27 - maybe that is the way she talks

You are smart means that you are smart!
 

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Strange this coz i actually got laid once.
I think tht she is a virgin too but cant really vouch for tht.
 

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pgbiswas79 said:
Strange this coz i actually got laid once.
I think tht she is a virgin too but cant really vouch for tht.
She doesn't see you as aggressive - I take it that you are the more soft spoken and gentle type.
 

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At times i am though i am impulsive too. And why should i show my aggression to her right on the first date and in our chat or phone convo ?
Tht might scare her off. Another thing she is a psychologist.
Do u think i should finish up my work here and get back to the girl ?
coz we hv been seperated fr almost 2 months and only use chat/phone/SMS as a medium of comm.

Nowadays, I am in australia looking at the skimpy clad aussie babes.
 
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A man's job is to take care of business first - then pleasurable pursuits!

"aggression" meaning "a "bad guy" image

It may be that your conversations portray yourself as sweet and innocent in what you say or how you say it!!
 
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