"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Should I be bothered she slept with some guy but wont kiss me?

pete101

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the girl im seeing keeps teasing me, she starts throwing questions at me about who i've made out with and who i've slept with this semester so i threw it back at her. she told me she's made out with 1 guy (clearly a lie could be a lot more) and when i asked her if she slept with him she tells me 'of course' in a direct non-answer answer.

she told me he gave up cos she kept cancelling on him but also added 'he'll be back..'

she has a bad habit that she cancels on everyone all the time, but with me.. she never cancels. i think that's clearly a high indicator of high interest with a girl who's a flake who never flakes on me?

but.. she tells me im too pushy, its like our 5th date and i still haven't kissed her. she tells me i'd be 'troublesome' if she went out with me and let things go further. also she asks me 'would i be trouble if i tried to break up with you?'

what is she asking me with these questions in girl speak?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

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pete101 said:
but.. she tells me im too pushy, its like our 5th date and i still haven't kissed her. she tells me i'd be 'troublesome' if she went out with me and let things go further. also she asks me 'would i be trouble if i tried to break up with you?'

what is she asking me with these questions in girl speak?

She thinks you are a psychopath and fears for her life. She might be right.

Cheers!
 

Nutz

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Yeah, she's more interested in toying with people that actually having a relationship. DTB. Feel free to let this one know why. Usually I'd recommend against that but this broad needs a wake-up call in the worst way.
 

Ease

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She's definitly a creep.

Give her no respect, she likes you around for attention and to feel like she can toy with you.

Why do you guys ask a girl about what shes done or who shes been with anyway, how can you ever believe the **** she tells you. Shes definitly lying, maybe reducing the number to not seem slutty, or maybe trying to make u jealous and make herself seem attractive. Either way, i can never take what a girl says seriously when it comes to her interactions with other guys. Just smile and nod when she talks crap.

Make a move immediatly, if she refuses then wtf you are clearly just wasting time. Kiss her, dont ask, just go in for it. Its clearly come to this point that you have to do something immediatly, and continuing dating this attention ***** any longer is damaging to your self respect.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dust 2 Dust

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No woman with high IL will be telling you you're too pushy after 5 dates. I hate to break it to you, but you're in the friends zone with a professional dater/Attention wh0re.
 

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I like to throw out to any potential girls that when I break up, I just go my separate way, and have no contact. No spying, asking around, or anything. I think its reassuring to girls if they are confident you wont go psycho if she dumps you.
 

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No one ever listens when you tell them to dump a *****.
 

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no you shouldnt be bothered, you should next her, and on her way out say "be safe ho"
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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