"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Should I be bothered she slept with some guy but wont kiss me?

pete101

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the girl im seeing keeps teasing me, she starts throwing questions at me about who i've made out with and who i've slept with this semester so i threw it back at her. she told me she's made out with 1 guy (clearly a lie could be a lot more) and when i asked her if she slept with him she tells me 'of course' in a direct non-answer answer.

she told me he gave up cos she kept cancelling on him but also added 'he'll be back..'

she has a bad habit that she cancels on everyone all the time, but with me.. she never cancels. i think that's clearly a high indicator of high interest with a girl who's a flake who never flakes on me?

but.. she tells me im too pushy, its like our 5th date and i still haven't kissed her. she tells me i'd be 'troublesome' if she went out with me and let things go further. also she asks me 'would i be trouble if i tried to break up with you?'

what is she asking me with these questions in girl speak?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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romangod

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pete101 said:
but.. she tells me im too pushy, its like our 5th date and i still haven't kissed her. she tells me i'd be 'troublesome' if she went out with me and let things go further. also she asks me 'would i be trouble if i tried to break up with you?'

what is she asking me with these questions in girl speak?

She thinks you are a psychopath and fears for her life. She might be right.

Cheers!
 

Nutz

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Yeah, she's more interested in toying with people that actually having a relationship. DTB. Feel free to let this one know why. Usually I'd recommend against that but this broad needs a wake-up call in the worst way.
 

Ease

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She's definitly a creep.

Give her no respect, she likes you around for attention and to feel like she can toy with you.

Why do you guys ask a girl about what shes done or who shes been with anyway, how can you ever believe the **** she tells you. Shes definitly lying, maybe reducing the number to not seem slutty, or maybe trying to make u jealous and make herself seem attractive. Either way, i can never take what a girl says seriously when it comes to her interactions with other guys. Just smile and nod when she talks crap.

Make a move immediatly, if she refuses then wtf you are clearly just wasting time. Kiss her, dont ask, just go in for it. Its clearly come to this point that you have to do something immediatly, and continuing dating this attention ***** any longer is damaging to your self respect.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dust 2 Dust

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No woman with high IL will be telling you you're too pushy after 5 dates. I hate to break it to you, but you're in the friends zone with a professional dater/Attention wh0re.
 

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I like to throw out to any potential girls that when I break up, I just go my separate way, and have no contact. No spying, asking around, or anything. I think its reassuring to girls if they are confident you wont go psycho if she dumps you.
 

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No one ever listens when you tell them to dump a *****.
 

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no you shouldnt be bothered, you should next her, and on her way out say "be safe ho"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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