"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Should I ask her to be my gf?

dontknowbouthat

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Early in October, my buddy got me involved with a group of his friends who he'd been wanting me to chill with for a while. Before this I had hung with a few of them, but never at an actual party.

So at this party, my buddy told me that a girl whom I knew from school wanted to hook up with me. So I took her upstairs, and we fooled around for a while. Anyway, I left the party after this was over.

For a week after this hookup, I didn't think much of the girl, but since I was now beginning to hang with her group of friends, I saw her often, and whenever we were together at a party or gathering, we acted as if we were a couple.

About three weeks after the hookup, we began to hang out by ourselves. For example, we get dinner and go to each others' houses regularly.

So, now it's been about 6 weeks since the initial hookup and I've never once brought up the idea of becoming an official couple, because I never saw any need to. After browsing this site for a while it seems the general consensus is that bf/gf conversations should be initiated by the girl, not the guy.

So my question is, should I make it official, or just let things continue the way they are?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm in the Mood

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Go for what you want.
Don't ASK her though.
Say something like: "I want us to be exclusive."

When I say go for what you want, I mean tell her what you want, and don't ask her.
You could ask her to be your girlfriend and you two become exclusive, but this gives away a portion of your power.
It makes HER the selector. YOU want to be the selector.

Whatever you say, it must begin with "I want," NOT "Do you want" or anything alike.
 

Analyzeit

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Try like bring it up when your alone or something

she could easily be waiting for you to say something

try mention it, try pull it out of her but don't go in and just straight up ask
 

LesaneCrooks

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Do you want her to be your girlfriend, really? Honestly, there is nothing you will gain from that title, and a lot you will lose. The ability to honestly go after other chicks without guilt? Gone. The ability to do what you want to do without her nagging you about sh_t? Gone. Oh yeah, you will gain the right to pay for a lot of the useless crap she supposedly needs. Enjoy getting the rewards without the responsibility while it lasts, because there's nothing beneficial about the BF title, especially at your age.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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