Should I apply things one at a time or?

[moneyisking]

Hi, my friends. I just wondered about one thing. You and I both know that there are tremendously many information about seduction and generally being a man. I prefer being natural, not carrying charts of moves and lines, and just say whatever comes in my mind (as long as it's DJ-like).

But you DJs that really get women. How did you guys start? Did you strike things one at a time, or did you read advices, go out and practice to see whatever comes out naturally for you to get girls?

For example, let's say you read and gain knowledge about ****y&funny. One goes out and talk to girls naturally and bring CF out if it does come out. The other one strikes it by trying to say CF anytime he can and bust her. After quite a while of getting used to CF, he moves on to something else, like kino, and he just focuses on kino, and so on.

What do you guys think?

 

[cola]

This is certainly one of the better questions I have read in the last few weeks. I'm surprised it was basically ignored. I'll give my best shot at giving you a good answer.​

Well, first step I believe is getting comfortable with yourself. Being comfortable in your own skin. Self acceptance, and mastery. The strength to change the things you can change, accept the things you cant and the wisdom to know the difference.

After that, get comfortable around other people. If you find females intimidating start with males, then females you don't find attractive, and then progress until you can be in the vicinity of attractive females without feeling self conscious.

Furthermore, get out there and make your life interesting. By making your life interesting, I mean getting a hobby. Something fun that you are interested in that gives you a sense of purpose and fulfillment.
Not only does this keep female interactions in perspective, it can give you great stories to tell.

Value yourself as a individual, and don't compromise your value by doing things you don't like or being "someone else" just to get females. Its not required and makes you a fake person. People have a sixth sense about people being themselves, and females can tell if your being authentic.
A problem many people need to address on this forum.

The above steps should give you confidence and self worth. Which is really all you need.
If you value yourself, you won't do anything to degrade yourself especially for the sake of garnering a females affection.

Everything else should come natural. Which is what you wanted right?

The name of the game is attraction and comfort. ****y and funny/kino work because it builds comfort. People who are cool often playfully tease each other and touch each other. Which is why ****y and funny doesn't work when no attraction is there.

If you can make people be comfortable in your presence which is a by product of being comfortable with yourself, than C&F and Kino come sort of naturally.

Goodluck

 

[moneyisking]

Goodness... Great post mr cola. Thank you. I am bookmarking this

 

[zekko]

I think you'd like to go out there as the whole package. The thing is, as you say, there is a lot information to absorb. It may be more effective for you to implement one thing at a time and make sure it's fully ingrained before moving on. Or maybe pick a few things to focus on, while still keeping in mind the big picture. I know Tom Brady has said he picks a few things each season to work on and improve, and he's had some success.

If you can make people be comfortable in your presence which is a by product of being comfortable with yourself, than C&F and Kino come sort of naturally.

That's as true a statement about C&F as I've heard. I know when I first starting hearing about C&F, I couldn't help but notice that there were some people around me who were just doing it naturally.
The kino may not come so naturally for some. Some people just aren't very touchy-feely.

 

[xdreamz]

****y & funny can get laughs if you do it the right way. they like it when you frame things as if they were hitting on you but the humor has to be done the right way. has anyone ever tried sharing the same interests as her and getting her really excited and in a happy mood off that?
for example

HB9.555: i like Boys like Girls
Me: i have their album
HB9.555: which one?
ME: the one with 3 colors on it
HB9.555: ROFL

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