"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should I act more black

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I'm black, but I don't act black at all because I was raised in a wealthy area. I'm guessing acting 25% black will help out my personality issues.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Jariel

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Just act naturally. The most pathetic people you meet in life are those trying to be something they're not. There are so many comedy shows and characters based on that kind of thing too.

I've been through it all myself. I tried acting less intelligent, more of a tough guy, less funny, more funny, and even tried modelling myself on The Rock for a while. Now I look back I cringe with embarrassment.

And by black, what do you mean exactly? I see a lot of black guys emulating gangsta rappers. To me, that's not acting "black", that's just acting like an impressionable child.

The best thing to do is instead of changing the way you behave, look at the flaws in yourself you want to overcome and the areas you want to improve.
 

Masculinity

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Black people, I love you so just have fun with this.

Here is a one-minute video that should help you behave the way you intend.

Oh, by the way, why do I get the feeling this thread is going to be closed by a mod in no time? :rolleyes: Mmm...I don't know.
 

Iceberg

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AlexDP said:
Less stupid would suffice.
And more banned would be nice. How many "racial" threads is this guy allowed to start?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm a black guy, and I don't think you should "act more black". Just be yourself. You grew up more civilized, because of your upbringing. That's nothing to be ashamed of. You don't want to turn away from that. By being yourself, better situations may come your way.
 

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"be yourself" is generally not helpful advice

I'd say experiment with it. If the women you are interested in respond to it, why not play it up a bit in the beginning?
 

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JPlaya said:
I'm black, but I don't act black at all because I was raised in a wealthy area. I'm guessing acting like a troll will help out my personality issues.
Fixed.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I shouldn't be banned and being myself hasn't obviously worked.
 

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nvm, I was destined to be forever alone. I'd rather just deal with the fact that I'm never going to any farther than talking to a girl. It's better than hopelessly failing.
 

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Is this that same guy who used to come on here back in the day? I can't remember his name but he was a black guy who constantly moaned about sh1t too. Listen. Be a man. Be who YOU are 100%. Being yourself means nothing if you aren't being your best self.

What are you doing to make yourself better? What are you doing to develop your confidence? What are you doing in your life as far as education and finances? What are you doing to achieve your goals? Sort that out first.

Figure out what YOUR problem is with women, fix all the stuff on your side. Get in shape, or at least dress the way you want to dress, get your confidence up (how? practice). Fix your social issues. If you have anxiety or depression sort it out, remember that all of those "feelings" are temporary and keep moving forward.

The last thing you need to be concerned with is your race. If you are trying to date white women, understand this. Some will be open to it, some won't. Some will like you for you are as your best self, some will see a stereotype and want to try it. Some will see a stereotype and want to avoid it. YOU CANNOT CONTROL THAT. Accept it. Suprisingly, that goes for ALL women. Some black women only like thugs, some don't.

Learn about the 80/20 rule. It applies to everything in life. 80% of the pvssy you get will come from 20% of the women you approach. That means you have to try and fail.

Pick your target and hunt in that area. What type of woman do YOU want. Where do those women go? What do those women do? Are you in those places?

Are you social? Do you know how to talk to people? Read How to Win Friends and Influence People. Read the book of pook. Stop having a Racial Pity Party. It's unattractive in a man and you are probably putting out a vibe with people you meet. Enjoy who you are as a black man, as a man, as a human and as an American (assuming you are american).

Lastly. Take some advice from this weirdo.

Good Luck.
 

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I'm black. I was born in the hood, but I'm a yuppy now.

In my own experience, I just act 'normal' but tint everything with my background.

It works, extremely well, if you can pull it off. I might try to remember some great dialogue to give examples.

I'm also pretty tall and pretty good looking, so I'm sure that helps, but I can see the different kind of attraction that occurs in their eyes if I'm in one of 'those' moods when I'm flowing intellectual and ghetto at the same time.

"Acting black" is really specific version of the "Bad Boy" idea. I was never a white jock at a big football high school, so I can't do that. But I was indeed a very savvy black street youth, so I can draw from that anytime I want.

My NYC slang has spread through all my fellow-yuppy friends, including the girls. I'm dating this pretty preppy white girl that grew up in a ritzy area of Seattle of all places, and last night I had her talking about "damn nigga you **** me so good".

Sometimes life is good.
 

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Acting "more Black" as in acting hood and ghetto vs acting with intelligence and speaking proper? Fine if you want to date hoodrats. Stay the same and upgrade the class of women you are pursuing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JPlaya said:
I'm black, but I don't act black at all because I was raised in a wealthy area.
And let me guess, you get pissed when people stereotype?
 

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Normally, I would put you on blast like I did in the other thread a while back,but then again, why waste a lot of time typing it up? Can a Mod PLEASE lock this thread and ban this guy?
 
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