"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well I made my gf feel bad yest, I told her that if she didnt go to this place with me then i didnt want to hang out with her this week. I felt that when ever we do things its always whatever she wants and not what i want to do. BUt this weekend is a speacial party only comes once in three months, but I told her and i got mad that it wasnt fair to me that we go to the party if didnt want to. She told me we can go where I want anytime this party only comes once in a while. We where planning to go to a motel and I told her thats what i really wanted to do;) . I got mad at her and and said a few mean things, she alomst cried. So afterwards she calls me and and says

her: what do u expect from this realtionship?
me: (not good to answer questions like that): sweeti im working ill call u later

later on i call her and I tell her im sorry for being a jerk and that I just felt like we never do what I want to do. So she told me, that next time I should say what I want to do, and not assume that she knows, so i told her thats right, I never tell her actually. SO i told her im sorry, but she siad she still felt bad cuz some one who u care about hurt her.

So now after all this, what do u guys think, what hapened here?

Im gonna see her at her work today
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Originally posted by kk2004
SO i told her im sorry, but she siad she still felt bad cuz some one who u care about hurt her.
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they sure know haw to milk it
 
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Re: idk

Originally posted by kk2004
i dont get it?
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She turned it around on you like the typical women they are? Tell her exactly what you meant.. That whenever you want to go somewhere, she can happily not go but when she asks you to go somewhere, she chucks a hissyfit.. Am I right?
 
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ttt

actually, when i told her lets go some place this one weekend, i wanted to go to the olive garden, i said it once and she said okay and we went. Its just that It feels as if we go to places that she wants more than the place i want. thas it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Never apologize for being a man -- men lead and women follow!!!! You have the final say -- always!!!!! This doesn't mean you should be inconsiderate -- but never apologize over petty shyt like this!!
 
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See the thing is that it wasnt petty and that I bascially said that if we dont go to the motel this weekend then I dont think I want to come to the party with u. Its not fair to mee. She felt bad bcuz she thought it didnt matter what we did together as long as we where together.
 
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