I have been seeing six women this month and three of those women always initiate text conversations with "Hey handsome". These three turn out to be low quality, the other three seem to be normal and open a conversation with a good morning or similar. Is this an opening line that low quality girls have. Is there a correlation. Any experience? Reminds me of dudes who open with hey beautiful.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Should a woman who opens up a text conversation with " Hey handsome" be a red flag?
- Thread starter Mazer
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
RedScorpion
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 23, 2012
- Messages
- 410
- Reaction score
- 216
- Age
- 38
Any opinion on love bombing? Learning about the idea of it fairly recently, seems to be exactly what I've had an experience with recently.
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Overthink alert. Cut that bad behavior.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It's nothing more than a slightly more personal level of social communication. Means nothing. I've had grocery cashiers use the word Honey with me before. I usually throw them a joke line about us not having been on a date yet in return.
For the Handsome remark, a simple joking We both agree on that, reply will do.
For the Handsome remark, a simple joking We both agree on that, reply will do.
Last edited:
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Go will the flow, and if she smacks you on the ass, say:
"lay OFF, that's private property!"
"lay OFF, that's private property!"
zekko
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Aug 6, 2009
- Messages
- 16,769
- Reaction score
- 9,978
Interesting. What kind of reactions have you gotten?
These girls who call you honey or sweetie always puzzle me. I know they say it to everyone, I'm just a little confused as to why. Are they just very personable, friendly, and outgoing? Or are they confused as to where appropriate boundaries with strangers and/or clients should be?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sandres22
Banned
That's interesting! I think she likes you.
Poonani Maker
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 29, 2007
- Messages
- 4,392
- Reaction score
- 927
Yeah, in my recent experience, it means she probably talks to her friends about you like that as well. It's good to have friends of friends = constant and never-ending new and fresh poon.
Poonani Maker
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 29, 2007
- Messages
- 4,392
- Reaction score
- 927
I'm getting "Sweetie" a lot lately from OLDER women who are complete strangers - like my first encounter with them. It's bizarre and I nuance it almost as if I think it's bizarre. They can see it in my face slightly. I don't know WHY they do it. Could be just bad social skills. I mean, there are other people standing (all strangers) around as well. I just let her do it, even though I'm a bit puzzled and my face may Slightly show I'm puzzled (not overtly). It's a calibration to not seem offended and to accept her kind gesture of "sweetie." I take it all in stride. And I'll grin and turn my head. It takes being around and FVCKING dozens of females to be able to implement the subtleties and weave in and out to confuse them right back, a "back at ya" "awwww" "she called me 'sweetie'..." "well, I do have my faults, but..." "I've been known to put a woman in tune with Nature..." Just don't get fired or embarrass yourself with your comebacks.
Sweetie is my least favorite "term of endearment".
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Sandres22
Banned
I appreciate your reply here. Thanks!
BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
Ok what terms of endearment do you use with women, such as working on a new possible plate? I always used the generic 'babe'..seemed to work.
Damn it. I miss flirting in the workplace. Career chicks r so unfeminine now. They all stride around like men and r so aggressive. Women used to provide balance. Now it's like having twice as many alpha douches.
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
As a fellow Aussie, I feel you. Office politics gets even worse.
Women and power do not mix.
Masculinity
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 6, 2009
- Messages
- 1,906
- Reaction score
- 547
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.