I have been seeing six women this month and three of those women always initiate text conversations with "Hey handsome". These three turn out to be low quality, the other three seem to be normal and open a conversation with a good morning or similar. Is this an opening line that low quality girls have. Is there a correlation. Any experience? Reminds me of dudes who open with hey beautiful.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Should a woman who opens up a text conversation with " Hey handsome" be a red flag?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
RedScorpion
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Any opinion on love bombing? Learning about the idea of it fairly recently, seems to be exactly what I've had an experience with recently.
TheGambino
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Overthink alert. Cut that bad behavior.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's nothing more than a slightly more personal level of social communication. Means nothing. I've had grocery cashiers use the word Honey with me before. I usually throw them a joke line about us not having been on a date yet in return.
For the Handsome remark, a simple joking We both agree on that, reply will do.
For the Handsome remark, a simple joking We both agree on that, reply will do.
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wifehunter
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Go will the flow, and if she smacks you on the ass, say:
"lay OFF, that's private property!"
"lay OFF, that's private property!"
zekko
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Interesting. What kind of reactions have you gotten?
These girls who call you honey or sweetie always puzzle me. I know they say it to everyone, I'm just a little confused as to why. Are they just very personable, friendly, and outgoing? Or are they confused as to where appropriate boundaries with strangers and/or clients should be?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Sandres22
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That's interesting! I think she likes you.
Poonani Maker
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Yeah, in my recent experience, it means she probably talks to her friends about you like that as well. It's good to have friends of friends = constant and never-ending new and fresh poon.
Poonani Maker
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I'm getting "Sweetie" a lot lately from OLDER women who are complete strangers - like my first encounter with them. It's bizarre and I nuance it almost as if I think it's bizarre. They can see it in my face slightly. I don't know WHY they do it. Could be just bad social skills. I mean, there are other people standing (all strangers) around as well. I just let her do it, even though I'm a bit puzzled and my face may Slightly show I'm puzzled (not overtly). It's a calibration to not seem offended and to accept her kind gesture of "sweetie." I take it all in stride. And I'll grin and turn my head. It takes being around and FVCKING dozens of females to be able to implement the subtleties and weave in and out to confuse them right back, a "back at ya" "awwww" "she called me 'sweetie'..." "well, I do have my faults, but..." "I've been known to put a woman in tune with Nature..." Just don't get fired or embarrass yourself with your comebacks.
Sweetie is my least favorite "term of endearment".
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Sandres22
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I appreciate your reply here. Thanks!
BetterCallSaul
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Ok what terms of endearment do you use with women, such as working on a new possible plate? I always used the generic 'babe'..seemed to work.
Damn it. I miss flirting in the workplace. Career chicks r so unfeminine now. They all stride around like men and r so aggressive. Women used to provide balance. Now it's like having twice as many alpha douches.
old_skoolr
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As a fellow Aussie, I feel you. Office politics gets even worse.
Women and power do not mix.
Masculinity
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.