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I dont get it, why are you telling me this? the other guy said the same thing, whats it got to do with anything I said?
Did you guys read what I wrote properly or am I just too hungover to see a point?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
should a girlfriend dance with other guys? if so, what limits?
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Did you guys read what I wrote properly or am I just too hungover to see a point?
frivolousz21
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did u make it threw the ngiht 
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On your 7th post Ive already lost all respect for you
I dont tolerate it at all
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I really don't see the problem with it.
Yes I know every guy in the club wants to **** the girl I am with, but how is that any different then any other place? If you have a hot girl, guys are going to push up, it's something you have to learn to deal with.
Me and my Ex used to go out to clubs all the time together and the second we would go in the club we would split up... I would get a couple of dances in with her i mean, she was my GF and all, but she couldn't dance to save her life, so I really didn't like dancing with her, so for the most part I would be on the dance floor, dancing by myself or with another woman and she would usualyl be sitting down, her choice. There would be times when guys would ask her to dance and she would get a dance or to in... And I could always see the bewildered look on every guys face... "you mean your BF is over there getting his freak on with that girl and you don't want to give me your number?"
And when it was all said and done, never once did I have to worry about a guy taking my girl home, or me having to fight over my girl, or my girl secretly giving her phone number out or anything along thoose lines.
Girls, unlike guys, at least most of them, don't think of clubs in the sexual manner as most guys do. Most guys go to the clubs to get laid. Women go for the attention. To you, dancing is a warm up to possible sex. To her it's more attention. ONce the song is over, it's over.
Plus, if a woman is dumb enough to cheat on me anyway, why worry about her in the first place?
Me and her aren't togther any longer, but not because of this... our religions clashed... she is Cathloic and wanted me to marry her, I am atheist and don't believ ein marrage and even if I did I am not ready to settle down.
The best relationships are built out of pure trust. The older you get, the more experience you have, the more you learn this. Does it matter in the grand scheme of things if an uncornated drunk AFC is dancing on your girls butt at a club... don't you do the same thing when you are out? It's all fun and games.
Now, if you tell your girl to come dance with you and she doesn't stop dancing with the guy she is dancing with... that could be trouble... actually seen this happen and I wanted to pee on myself I was laughing soo hard... never had that problem out of my GF however... if I saw a guy pushing up too hard, to the point where my GF was uncofrotbable, I would tell her to come here.
Yes, I don't trust guys either... I had a guy try to get at my girl while i was holding her one night at the club, but it takes two to tango... if she wants to cheat, she will cheat.
Plus on the flip side, there are times when my friends will call me and tell me to get dressed, we are going out. Plenty of times when me and her were together I would get a call at 1 in the morning telling me to get my ass at a certain club or party and I would up and leave, and all my GF would say was be safe, because she knew I wasnt' going to cheat on her.... I had chances, I never turned down a girls number just in case, but I never cheated.
Yes I know every guy in the club wants to **** the girl I am with, but how is that any different then any other place? If you have a hot girl, guys are going to push up, it's something you have to learn to deal with.
Me and my Ex used to go out to clubs all the time together and the second we would go in the club we would split up... I would get a couple of dances in with her i mean, she was my GF and all, but she couldn't dance to save her life, so I really didn't like dancing with her, so for the most part I would be on the dance floor, dancing by myself or with another woman and she would usualyl be sitting down, her choice. There would be times when guys would ask her to dance and she would get a dance or to in... And I could always see the bewildered look on every guys face... "you mean your BF is over there getting his freak on with that girl and you don't want to give me your number?"
And when it was all said and done, never once did I have to worry about a guy taking my girl home, or me having to fight over my girl, or my girl secretly giving her phone number out or anything along thoose lines.
Girls, unlike guys, at least most of them, don't think of clubs in the sexual manner as most guys do. Most guys go to the clubs to get laid. Women go for the attention. To you, dancing is a warm up to possible sex. To her it's more attention. ONce the song is over, it's over.
Plus, if a woman is dumb enough to cheat on me anyway, why worry about her in the first place?
Me and her aren't togther any longer, but not because of this... our religions clashed... she is Cathloic and wanted me to marry her, I am atheist and don't believ ein marrage and even if I did I am not ready to settle down.
The best relationships are built out of pure trust. The older you get, the more experience you have, the more you learn this. Does it matter in the grand scheme of things if an uncornated drunk AFC is dancing on your girls butt at a club... don't you do the same thing when you are out? It's all fun and games.
Now, if you tell your girl to come dance with you and she doesn't stop dancing with the guy she is dancing with... that could be trouble... actually seen this happen and I wanted to pee on myself I was laughing soo hard... never had that problem out of my GF however... if I saw a guy pushing up too hard, to the point where my GF was uncofrotbable, I would tell her to come here.
Yes, I don't trust guys either... I had a guy try to get at my girl while i was holding her one night at the club, but it takes two to tango... if she wants to cheat, she will cheat.
Plus on the flip side, there are times when my friends will call me and tell me to get dressed, we are going out. Plenty of times when me and her were together I would get a call at 1 in the morning telling me to get my ass at a certain club or party and I would up and leave, and all my GF would say was be safe, because she knew I wasnt' going to cheat on her.... I had chances, I never turned down a girls number just in case, but I never cheated.
NO! She is your girlfriend and her place is at your side. I can't see any situation that she should be off on the dance floor dancing with a bunch of other guys.
Forget about being insecure. Look at the male female dynamics of relationships. She shouldn't even want to be touched by another man once she has bonded to you.
Forget about being insecure. Look at the male female dynamics of relationships. She shouldn't even want to be touched by another man once she has bonded to you.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
dude, the point is it's just dancing.
For instance, it's like goign to the prom.
When you go to the prom, you go with a date, but even so, you are going to get a dance in with a couple of other people, but at the end of the night, there is no mistkaen on who your date is.
I mean, it's just dancing.
Just because she is dancing with another guy doesn't mean she doesn't want to be by your side.
If i would have told my GF I never want her to dance with another guy, she wouldn't have, hell in fact when we first started to go out she wouildn't, and I asked her why she wasn't dancing and she told me because I was her BF... I told her I really didn't give a damn, because you were coming home with me anyway, and long as you keep it respectable.
Now if you are married? Different story. But you are not married. You are out having fun, I really don't see the problem in it.
If you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt your GF wasn't going to cheat on you no matter who she danced with, you wouldn't give a damn who she danced with, therefore it's your own insecuirites that say "No, you can't dance with other guys"... lol, if she wanted to **** another guy, you think you saying she can't dance with another guy is going to stop her?
For instance, it's like goign to the prom.
When you go to the prom, you go with a date, but even so, you are going to get a dance in with a couple of other people, but at the end of the night, there is no mistkaen on who your date is.
I mean, it's just dancing.
Just because she is dancing with another guy doesn't mean she doesn't want to be by your side.
If i would have told my GF I never want her to dance with another guy, she wouldn't have, hell in fact when we first started to go out she wouildn't, and I asked her why she wasn't dancing and she told me because I was her BF... I told her I really didn't give a damn, because you were coming home with me anyway, and long as you keep it respectable.
Now if you are married? Different story. But you are not married. You are out having fun, I really don't see the problem in it.
If you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt your GF wasn't going to cheat on you no matter who she danced with, you wouldn't give a damn who she danced with, therefore it's your own insecuirites that say "No, you can't dance with other guys"... lol, if she wanted to **** another guy, you think you saying she can't dance with another guy is going to stop her?
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
its not just dancing!
its cheating!
DONT LET HER TOUCH OTHER MEN!
its cheating!
DONT LET HER TOUCH OTHER MEN!
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
I know exactly why you feel this way. Because you actually dance and get freaky with other girls in front of her. Your just as messed up as sweetdreams girl. EXCEPT your the male version of her. You and sweetdreams girl would be perfect for eachother.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
dude, you are 16 years old... you haven't even been to prom yet, let alone a 21 and over club..
I made a post about why eo we take women soo seriously? AGain I ask the question?
Actually I dance, and if you want me to be totally honest, I normally dance by myself. I hardy ever ask a girl to dance with me... I don't grind on girls, I dance, I have danced since I was 3 years old impersating Micheal Jackson (pretty good for a 3 year old might I add).
There are times when a women comes up to me and starts to dance with me, and then I will dance with them because I don't mind.
But I don't go to the club with my GF on my arm looking for "babes" do dance with, my gF knows that.. and she also knows that she can't keep up with me on the dance floor so she dosn't bother trying.
I made a post about why eo we take women soo seriously? AGain I ask the question?
Actually I dance, and if you want me to be totally honest, I normally dance by myself. I hardy ever ask a girl to dance with me... I don't grind on girls, I dance, I have danced since I was 3 years old impersating Micheal Jackson (pretty good for a 3 year old might I add).
There are times when a women comes up to me and starts to dance with me, and then I will dance with them because I don't mind.
But I don't go to the club with my GF on my arm looking for "babes" do dance with, my gF knows that.. and she also knows that she can't keep up with me on the dance floor so she dosn't bother trying.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
defetist attitude?
It's the attitude of a man who knows his GF wants no other man in the club but him and has no problem with her dancing with a guy every once in a while.
what I am trying to say is that this whole thing is taken too seriously.
IT'S JUST DANCING
and I am not flaming the kid, but the fact is that he has 5 years before he even has the concept of what goes on in a club.
so what if your GF hooks up with another guy. Ovbiously she isn't for you. Move on.
There are three reasons why I really don't give a damn about my GF dancing with other guys. First of all, I know if I wanted to dance with her any time I could. Secodly, women don't dance with me for the same reason men dance with women. Even when I get hit on at clubs, it's not on the dance floor. Lastly, in the grand scheme of things, I have more important things to worry about. If she is going to cheat, go ahead and dump her. If you have a club hopping I have to go otu to the club every other night girl, that's not a GF you need to have. But if I am in a club and a guy asks my GF to dance with her and she does and when the song is over she leaves, I am not going to tear her a new one
It's the attitude of a man who knows his GF wants no other man in the club but him and has no problem with her dancing with a guy every once in a while.
what I am trying to say is that this whole thing is taken too seriously.
IT'S JUST DANCING
and I am not flaming the kid, but the fact is that he has 5 years before he even has the concept of what goes on in a club.
so what if your GF hooks up with another guy. Ovbiously she isn't for you. Move on.
There are three reasons why I really don't give a damn about my GF dancing with other guys. First of all, I know if I wanted to dance with her any time I could. Secodly, women don't dance with me for the same reason men dance with women. Even when I get hit on at clubs, it's not on the dance floor. Lastly, in the grand scheme of things, I have more important things to worry about. If she is going to cheat, go ahead and dump her. If you have a club hopping I have to go otu to the club every other night girl, that's not a GF you need to have. But if I am in a club and a guy asks my GF to dance with her and she does and when the song is over she leaves, I am not going to tear her a new one
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
lol, oh, there is no hope for her, she's pretty bad.
And like I said, I don't "grind" on women, I actually dance, I usually do variation of tutting or popping and floating or some type of freestyling... thoose types of dances aren't something you can do while holding on to some girls ass.
Hell, I didn't even ahve a problem when guys bought my GF Drinks... Of couse she would actually come and ask me is it okay if a guy bought me a drink and I would say sure, that's one less drink I ahve to pay for.. one night she got so many drinks, I didn't have to buy MYSELF drinks because she got so many, I think it was last halloween, I ended up with like 4 Cranbarry Vodka's and a Barcardi Silver
And like I said, I don't "grind" on women, I actually dance, I usually do variation of tutting or popping and floating or some type of freestyling... thoose types of dances aren't something you can do while holding on to some girls ass.
Hell, I didn't even ahve a problem when guys bought my GF Drinks... Of couse she would actually come and ask me is it okay if a guy bought me a drink and I would say sure, that's one less drink I ahve to pay for.. one night she got so many drinks, I didn't have to buy MYSELF drinks because she got so many, I think it was last halloween, I ended up with like 4 Cranbarry Vodka's and a Barcardi Silver
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Why is it a different story when you are married? Does not having a wedding ring is a licence to do certain acts which deemed not apporpriate when married???!!! if you ever want to get married and allow this, don't be surprise if your new wife informs you that she will continue going to clubs to dance with other guys because if you didn't have a problem with this prior to the marriage, you shouldn't have one now.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
what does RESPECT have to do with being secure.
its not about secure...I am secure by the way..its about repsect...
hey I exspect my commited women to be repsectful of me...and being repsectful is not touching other men.
its not about secure...I am secure by the way..its about repsect...
hey I exspect my commited women to be repsectful of me...and being repsectful is not touching other men.
Originally posted by frivolousz21
did u make it threw the ngiht
Thanks for asking.
Most of you don't care so don't read the rest. Don't need/want any crap about "too long" so save yourself the trouble. I'm not looking for advice anymore. Thanks for sharing your ideas.
frivolousz21 and anyone bored:
I talked to her before she left and after she came back the next day. She pretty much volunteered everything that happened that night. She danced with her other friend who has a boyfriend while the birthday girl got like 4 numbers from guys. She said she rarely even goes to clubs but it was for a birthday... and she goes even less when she's in a relationship. She considers them to be pretty dirty and "shady" (she really likes the word shady) and if guys try to dance with her and touch her she's pretty aggressive and backs them off.
At one point she texted me "you top out any of these dudes in looks" to which i replied as a joke "aww calculated ego stroke," meaning that she was probably saying that to ease my mind that she's not there doing anything. Dirty trick? Doubt it.
Turns out she hung out with one my co-workers she ran into by chance after she'd been there awhile so she musta behaved. She said she used him as a shield against other guys so when they'd come up and try to dance with her she'd start dancing with him to get rid of them. He's a major afc, trustworthy, and has absolutely no game so no conspiracy theories, guys... She also tried to hook him up with other girls and failed but that's another story (ohhh the stories i can tell...)
She didn't even drink past 11:30 since she had to drive home 90 minutes. Then in the morning she called me and said she thought of me all night and really wanted to come over. I told her to come over then but not till after i was done watching football =p... and that's when she immediately started telling me everything that happened that night. Maybe she hid things but she seems to mention most really screwed up things that happen to and around her without shame, so who knows? I'm not worried about it.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
sounds to me like you have a good girl who has a High IL for you.
tigre
Don Juan
there´s nothing you can possibly gain by letting your Girlfriend go to a club with her friends and dancing with other dudes, but theres lots of things that you can lose. I mean there´s always gonna be alcohol involved and your girl can cheat on you or the other guy can seduce her, or at least he will be grinding all over her and touching her n ****.