So I asked this girl out that lives in my dorm, in person. The previous dates were planned over the phone. It would have been our fourth date, but I was denied. She asked if there were other people going, I said "no". Then she said she will invite some people on her floor to come along, wtf?? I said okay and I'd give her a call. I don't know what I did wrong, I thought we got along great. I don't plan on calling her back, I'm deleting her number once I finish typing this.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
shot down...
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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During the first 3 dates did she kiss you? did she intiate any kino?
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Is she an attention *****!? Often times girls are just looking for some ''fun.'' At the beginning of college girls really don't have an established social circle yet, so she may have just been expanding her circle by hanging out with you, because she had nothing else better to do. Just a thought, good luck don't lose faith.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She's not an attention ho, but a girl I'd actually want my mom to meet. She's not in a sorority. I kissed her on the second date and yes we were alone for the first three dates. I didn't initiate kino until the second date. She hasn't initiated any kino, she's kind of on the shy side. Maybe I was too aggressive or used too much C/F, I dunno...
I would never recommend using c+f on shy girls...the ****y part anyway. I've found that some find it offputting, intimidating and a former GF told my friend she found it obnoxious.
Again, this comes down to gurus preaching one technique as universal when it's not true at all. You have to adapt to different women. Some women (i.e. shy, quiet or mature women) just want a mature guy they can relate to and feel comfortable with.
However, I wouldn't suggest you try to undo what's already done. She may come round sometime, but meanwhile stick with your plan and move on.
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I do not agree with how the so called "pickup masters" Eg. David DeAngelo talk about C&F. They make it sound like its the be all and end all of macking. Basically the message there putting across is "if you use ****y and funny a girl will instantly fall in love with you".
GUYS MY ADVICE TO YOU IS do not use C&F much. Use it sparingly especially with shy girls don't use it much or you will come of looking like an arrogant insensitive prick.
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GUYS MY ADVICE TO YOU IS do not use C&F much. Use it sparingly especially with shy girls don't use it much or you will come of looking like an arrogant insensitive prick.
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Just get your game together and stop crying! Most of you guys have the soul of a kitten and then wonder why a chick wont treat you like a lion.
If you are here crying over 1 bit ch out of billions turning you down then you deserve to be turned down. There are usually a million post about getting your self worth up posted here and it likes you guys just dont get it.
Stop acting like you are made or broken by a particulair chick. A man needs women in his life but not ONE particular one. Get over it and move on.
It's her lost not yours. You are acting like she is God's gift to you. You already have the leash picked out for her to put on you.
Doesnt matter why she turned you on she did move on. She is not sitting in her spot crying about dissing you so why are you crying over her. Cut that shi t out!
If you are here crying over 1 bit ch out of billions turning you down then you deserve to be turned down. There are usually a million post about getting your self worth up posted here and it likes you guys just dont get it.
Stop acting like you are made or broken by a particulair chick. A man needs women in his life but not ONE particular one. Get over it and move on.
It's her lost not yours. You are acting like she is God's gift to you. You already have the leash picked out for her to put on you.
Doesnt matter why she turned you on she did move on. She is not sitting in her spot crying about dissing you so why are you crying over her. Cut that shi t out!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yeah I learned that with this girl. C/F works well with attention ho's. I'm using C/F with this other girl, an attention ho, that I know (hey it rhymes). I'm not attracted to her in anyway so I use all my C/F with her. She wants to jump my bones.