When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Towards the end there you lost me. I understand that you want to give people a boost, but seriously - do you really consider men to be sexier than women? Sorry, but when it comes to sexy I believe the female body wins hands down... then again, you can repeat the mantra that men are "beautiful, sexy, and sexier than the females"...Fashion
1. List of Designers - (that have contributed to making me a playa)
(1) Henleys - Never heard of them, no judgement.
(2) Levis - Sorry, but any jeans that you can buy at Wal-Mart (and for under $20 at that) aren't very "high fashion" in my book. Levi Strauss is not a designer label. Wal-Mart link
(3) Versace - Only if you've been watching "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy". Why not buy some cute shoes to match?
(4) Old Glory - Sorry, but we're not living in Bowling Green, Kentucky circa 1990 anymore. I think even Wal-Mart discontinued their sale of this line of clothing. Old Glory is not a designer label.
(5) Hugo Boss/Evisu - Once again, Queer Eye for the Straight Guy strikes back.
Health Care
Facial Care/Dental/Hair
(1) Nivea for Men - Any unscented moisturizer will do just fine. The only reason it's "for men" is to entice insecure men into buying a product they normally would consider too girly for personal use.
(2) Tanning - Finally, the first thing we agree on.
(3) VO5 hair wax - Different hair types will give different results with different products. This could either work or not work, depending on your hair.
(4) Dax hair grease - Same as above.
(5) Teeth - Colgate toothpaste - Dentyl Mouthwash - Colgate? Who cares? So long as it says "whitening" and is made by a fortune 500 company it shouldn't matter. Mouthwash is fine, but virtually any type will do.
(6) Chanel Platinum Egoiste - Eau De Toillette - Each to their own. I would recommend a different cologne, and I'm sure everybody reading this will have their own ideas of whats best. That's why there's a huge thread about nothing but "what cologne is the best".
Mindset
i am beautiful.. sexy...
I AM AND ALWAYS WILL BE A MAN - i am .. sexier than the female of my race
LOL, after I read the bolded text I thought it should be changed to that as well.Originally posted by undesputable
Change the title to "Shezzlers guide to be a metrosexual"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well said. I also agree that the gym is a necessity. Doesn't matter how huge you are, the feeling of looking better and becoming more healthy effects all areas of your life.Originally posted by Tweek_1984
Surely the key to attracting women is through ego, bravado and intelligence. Not by being somebody you're not.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:Originally posted by undesputable
at least were not stuck up snobbish metrosexual brithish homos
Why don't you discuss England's dental care system, or lack there of? You people are pasty white from lack of sun, most of you are snaggle toothed, and your women are obnoxious.Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Ye an Americans can talk - the only tips you can give is how to eat go to McDonalds - order a big mac meal, fries, ice cream, donuts, corn, nuggets, more fries and another burger.
then be dumb enough to ask for a Diet Coke
yep thats america for ya:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your a man of words lol.Originally posted by Tweek_1984
Anybody can write a post about what you should wear and how you should look at yourself but thats like drinking slim fast and thinking you're gonna slim down in two weeks without excercising.
You're an afc with low confidence, start reading some weight training literature, trawl the websites, and set yourself a routine and get down the gym. Then come on here and tell us all how unconfident you are when your lats resemble wings.
Dress how you like.
I ain't no grandmaster pimp but I've been reading this site for some time now and I've come to realise through my own experiences that being a DJ isn't about building a facade or a fake personality. People will see straight through that.
It's about building confidence the hard way by putting the work in. Not by wearing a certain cologne.
I'm a skater, if I started wearing armani jeans and shiz I'd get laughed at by my friends.
Surely the key to attracting women is through ego, bravado and intelligence. Not by being somebody you're not.