"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Shezzlers Guide to being a Playa
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Towards the end there you lost me. I understand that you want to give people a boost, but seriously - do you really consider men to be sexier than women? Sorry, but when it comes to sexy I believe the female body wins hands down... then again, you can repeat the mantra that men are "beautiful, sexy, and sexier than the females"...Fashion
1. List of Designers - (that have contributed to making me a playa)
(1) Henleys - Never heard of them, no judgement.
(2) Levis - Sorry, but any jeans that you can buy at Wal-Mart (and for under $20 at that) aren't very "high fashion" in my book. Levi Strauss is not a designer label. Wal-Mart link
(3) Versace - Only if you've been watching "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy". Why not buy some cute shoes to match?
(4) Old Glory - Sorry, but we're not living in Bowling Green, Kentucky circa 1990 anymore. I think even Wal-Mart discontinued their sale of this line of clothing. Old Glory is not a designer label.
(5) Hugo Boss/Evisu - Once again, Queer Eye for the Straight Guy strikes back.
Health Care
Facial Care/Dental/Hair
(1) Nivea for Men - Any unscented moisturizer will do just fine. The only reason it's "for men" is to entice insecure men into buying a product they normally would consider too girly for personal use.
(2) Tanning - Finally, the first thing we agree on.
(3) VO5 hair wax - Different hair types will give different results with different products. This could either work or not work, depending on your hair.
(4) Dax hair grease - Same as above.
(5) Teeth - Colgate toothpaste - Dentyl Mouthwash - Colgate? Who cares? So long as it says "whitening" and is made by a fortune 500 company it shouldn't matter. Mouthwash is fine, but virtually any type will do.
(6) Chanel Platinum Egoiste - Eau De Toillette - Each to their own. I would recommend a different cologne, and I'm sure everybody reading this will have their own ideas of whats best. That's why there's a huge thread about nothing but "what cologne is the best".
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i am beautiful.. sexy...
I AM AND ALWAYS WILL BE A MAN - i am .. sexier than the female of my race
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N offense dude, but we've heard all this crap before. There's no need to keep repeating it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Billasec
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THIS WORKS, I have the same colgne and girls notice it all the time, they love it
been wearing this cologne for about 6 monthes and i get compliments every other day.
Make sure to apply colgne as such:
1 spary to the front of the neck, 1 to the back, 1 to a wrist...rub wrists
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You're an afc with low confidence, start reading some weight training literature, trawl the websites, and set yourself a routine and get down the gym. Then come on here and tell us all how unconfident you are when your lats resemble wings.
Dress how you like.
I ain't no grandmaster pimp but I've been reading this site for some time now and I've come to realise through my own experiences that being a DJ isn't about building a facade or a fake personality. People will see straight through that.
It's about building confidence the hard way by putting the work in. Not by wearing a certain cologne.
I'm a skater, if I started wearing armani jeans and shiz I'd get laughed at by my friends.
Surely the key to attracting women is through ego, bravado and intelligence. Not by being somebody you're not.
LuisGarcia10
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
josekortez
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Why don't you discuss England's dental care system, or lack there of? You people are pasty white from lack of sun, most of you are snaggle toothed, and your women are obnoxious.
In the words of Archie Bunker "England is basically a FAG country"
P.S. I'm aware that there are plenty of fine people from the UK. But when some idiot starts cutting on the USA, I feel obligated to respond in like fashion.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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