“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She's obviously interested, but can't get her out

blitzin'

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No problem, it's all good

O.k, I pretty much know what to do in this situation, I just want some other guys perspecives on this.
There's this girl (Lindsey) I met a couple weeks ago, and we have been getting to know eachother in class. Got her number went through all the normal steps...didn't call until several days later etc. Anyway, I've been getting all the good signs, she's returning calls, comes to me in the hallway to talk with me, comes over to sit by me in class, flirts, good kino, doesn't talk or sit with other guys. Problem is I'm having trouble getting together with her outside of school. I've invited her out twice once to study, and once for fun. She has told me she has homework to do or she's tired and will call me later if she has time after she gets done. Last night we were talking about going out for fun and she'd call back later. She never did. But today she came over and sat alone next to me in class, and asked if I went out, which I said I did with someone else. She said I figured you would, and told me about her evening. We were asked to split into two groups; I told her I was going to #1 and she followed me over and sat by me. Now, there are three other girls in this group who's numbers I've gotten, and have been getting in with, and a couple I haven't asked the number for (have boyfriends) who are showing signs of liking me as well. So this girls's seen me with other attractive women, and I've detected a little hint of jealousness. She said she didn't have homework tonight, so I asked her out tonight instead, which I normally wouldn't do so soon after asking her out the other day but she made the comment of being free tonight. So I call, no answer. I can tell she's a little shy, but she seems to like me, and am thinking if she doesn't respond maybe I should back off a bit. Oh, which reminds me, that chick (Samantha) from a while back that I was having trouble with called me earlier to see if I'd get together with her tomorrow. I just started ignoring her **** and now she's coming after me.:D
I'm just gonna let her fester a bit... she was a little immature. But with this new one I'm not sure how to aproach this. Like I said she's obviously interested, but I can't seem to get her to go out. Even though I know she's really busy with school and it doesn't sound like she goes out much with anyone, I don't know if she's just giving excuses or she really is too busy. I think if I back off she'll probably come to me, but what's the point if she's already interested. She continues to show interest. Thoughts anyone?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Grey Fox

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Sounds like a sunshine girl, all nice, gives plenty of signs but aviods dates. Instead of just letting it fester as you say. Why not ignore her a bit longer, even hint at just wanting to be friends. It shouldn't matter since you have other girls on the sideline, see how far you can lead her around before she breaks down and quits playing games.

-Grey Fox
 

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i would forget her. sounds like more trouble than she's worth. forget her: if she comes to you, great; if not, o well.
 

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I'm not sure. She seems open to hanging out with you while studying. If you don't mind studying with her, keep doing it and stop asking her out.
 

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No problems, she (Lindsey) came up to me the next day, sat with me in lab, and appologized for not calling, and asked me to get together next Wednesday. I acted like it wasn't a big deal. I still get good signs too. She seems to concetrate on homework, and hasn't been feeling too good, which I new before I asked her out, so it's not just an excuse. Plus an added bonus, this real hb9 (Kristin) who I've been talking with was telling me her older sister remembers working with me several years ago. Anyway, I got the number and she asked me to go out with her later. This was done in class, right in front of Lindsey. I detected a hint of jealousy, again. Oh, and it wasn't Lindsey that I was going to let fester, that was Samantha a different girl I was working on several weeks ago, that started getting all weird so I next. She''s been trying to get close to me again.:D I'll just play it cool with Lindsey, she'll eventually crack. Meanwhile I've got other options, and Samantha's starting to obsese, so if I just feel like having some fun she's an option.;)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well if the HB 9 is hotter, tap that first. In fact start some serious jealousy by going out with HB 9 on wensday and canceling on the sunshine girl. She won't see it coming, and well the other girl is certainly going to feel some more competition. Also this should be a good boost for you. I'm only saying this because if you go with sunshine girl first you could make the whole thing unravel, besides HB 9 hasn't burned you yet, and you need to show sunshine girl your not her next trophy chump she plays with.

-Grey Fox
 

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I disagree with Grey Fox about cancelling Sunshine to go out with "9" on Wed, especially if you've already made plans. I wouln't burn that bridge right yet. Just don't take things too far with Sunshine if she's not your #1 prospect. Play it cool, and you'll still have control over the situation.

Having power is great; abusing it is definitely uncool, and could backfire if any of these gals are really worth it. Not all gals are chumps, either.
 

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Yeah, I agree with that. Actually all of these girls I'm working on are worthwhile. They're actually nice! Not the least bit slutty, confident, honest, and actually have real working brains. Well, all except for Samantha (the one who's obsessing), she's nice looking and nice but lacking in other departments. I've got my sights on the other 3. They're all equally attractive, I never said Lindsey (sunshine girl) wasn't a hb9 too. I'm just going to play it cool and go out with all of them. I'll figure out from there who I have the best chemistry with and take it from there.;)
 

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You never mentioned that they were both 9's. I assumed that Sunshine was not as hot as the hb9 you had mentioned. In that case yes go out with them but drop the any flakes fast.

-Grey Fox
 
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