She's not over him...

[PeterCrouch]

How do you deal with a girl whose not over her past bf?

She never talks to you about him, even when they were going out, but you know shes not over him!

Is it a case of getting as far away as possible?

Also another question id like to ask, this is based on me rather than some girl, even tho it sounds like the same sort of thing (Its not)

But....What do you do when you know somethings bad for you but you still cant let it go?

Cheeeers

 

[T Square]

Let her go.

Give her space to sort out her feelings. It's not going to do either one of you any good to stay together if she's not over her ex.

And, if something is bad for you, you have to get the courage to let go, or else it will destroy you.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Never be the rebound guy.

 

[sexy_kuta]

im in the same sisuatuon

i told the the girl straight up.. i wanna take things slower because i know u still have feelings for ur ex and i dont wanna be a the rebound guy

she agreed and said cool

she doesnt wanna hook up with him.. thats a fact.. haha she even tells me that exs are named "exs" for a reason... i never could hook up with them back..

im taking this dating **** long as hell.. i would say just about 2-3 months then i will see about a commitment..

u have to let her know ur better than him BUT at the same time u cant take shiit from her.. if shes using u as a emontional tampon... tell her to fuk off.

when do u guys think its safe to move closer toward an commitment? to aviod being the rebound guy

 

[Jariel]

I've been in this situation many times and you can't win. As long as she feels an emotional connection with another guy, you can only come second, regardless of whether you're the coolest, best looking, richest or smartest cat on the block! Emotional attachment overpowers all logic and even sexual attraction.

Like T Square said, back off and let her come to terms with her feelings.

You could stick around as her mate (note: NOT her councellor or shoulder to cry on!) for now, show her a good time and help distract her from her ex. But don't pin your hopes on her (or any one girl). Keep your options open and keep dating other women!

 

[aftershock]

You can only come second.

But you can come second and get poon!

 

[Jariel]

You can only come second.

But you can come second and get poon!

I can't argue with that!

If that's all you want, go for it!

 

[tryin 2 play]

Defintely DO NOT get emotionally involved. I just got out of the same situation. Everyone, including her, knew how much better of a guy i am than her ex, however she kept finding her self torn between the two. Eventually, so much drama went on that I ended it because it was starting to bring me down.

Anyway, you can still try to get with her, but honestly man do not emotionally invest yourself in to this girl. Do you really want a chic that wants some other guy also?