btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
I suppose, still weird behavior in my opinion.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She's not interested? ''Need some time for myself''
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Women with options date more than one man at a time just like men with options date more than one woman at a time. It's how you decide who you like best and are more compatible with as you get to know people. If you are not exclusive then it is wise to assume everybody is dating more than one person (assuming we are talking about attractive desirable people.)
At any rate your comment seems to miss the point of my story about my ex husband. He didn't tell me what to do at all. Instead he did something better. He said "Do as you please." but he also made clear that if I was going to see someone else that he was going to remove himself as an option for me.
That left me a choice. Did I want to risk not seeing him to see the other guy? Not really. I wanted more to see where things went with him.
You also realize that was HIM wanting/maneuvering for exclusivity with me, not me asking him for exclusivity like everyone here promotes.
But he did it from a high value position and a take or leave attitude that he showed me, when in reality he very much wanted me. That's great game.