btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
I suppose, still weird behavior in my opinion.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She's not interested? ''Need some time for myself''
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
BeExcellent
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Women with options date more than one man at a time just like men with options date more than one woman at a time. It's how you decide who you like best and are more compatible with as you get to know people. If you are not exclusive then it is wise to assume everybody is dating more than one person (assuming we are talking about attractive desirable people.)
At any rate your comment seems to miss the point of my story about my ex husband. He didn't tell me what to do at all. Instead he did something better. He said "Do as you please." but he also made clear that if I was going to see someone else that he was going to remove himself as an option for me.
That left me a choice. Did I want to risk not seeing him to see the other guy? Not really. I wanted more to see where things went with him.
You also realize that was HIM wanting/maneuvering for exclusivity with me, not me asking him for exclusivity like everyone here promotes.
But he did it from a high value position and a take or leave attitude that he showed me, when in reality he very much wanted me. That's great game.