"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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last time we got together i told her to give me a call..although i didnt make it too clear. and the last time we were together everything went really well. 5 days went by and nothing, and i sent her a mesasge over myspace and theres a way to check if someone reaad your message, and i know she did but didnt respond. my message went along the lines that i had a good time and we should get togehter again during the holidays.

so nothing for a few days. i called her and wished her merry christmas on christmas eve and things were cool and we talked about spending new years together. she told me she would call me on tuesday.... nothing. so today (wed) i was on msn at work and she was on. i messaged her and we talked for a min or two and she mentioned shes sick and missed work today. she said shes not doing anyhting in the evening and she would call. ... again nothing

so im just sitting here scratching my head now. in person everything always goes well and shes extremely flirty and she even is flirty over my space. but when it comes to calling or responding to messages (over internet or even phone) shes kinda cold and never responds.

is she testing me?
i was considering calling her tomorrow and asking whats up with her and what her deal is. is that a good idea?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't bother with her. She doesn't have the heart to turn you down. One time forgetfulness I can understand- four or five times? No way.


Somebody had to say it. NEXT.
 
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Originally posted by StrangeButTrue
Don't bother with her. She doesn't have the heart to turn you down. One time forgetfulness I can understand- four or five times? No way.


Somebody had to say it. NEXT.
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thats what im thinking as well. but before i do, i do want to confront her though ... bad idea?
 
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seems like she's trying to be a challenge. Usually the ones that play challenge dont call when they say they do.
She does seem like she's interested, she's opened her schedule to you by telling you she's doing nothing.

I would back away from her and date others in the meantime, if she wants to call she will. However always remember that when you call a girl, it's to set up a date...dont call to talk about nonsense.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
seems like she's trying to be a challenge. Usually the ones that play challenge dont call when they say they do.
She does seem like she's interested, she's opened her schedule to you by telling you she's doing nothing.

I would back away from her and date others in the meantime, if she wants to call she will. However always remember that when you call a girl, it's to set up a date...dont call to talk about nonsense.
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well i would be calling to confront (ala http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip167.htm) and say either yes or no. if its a yes then lets do something on ___day. if no then "next"
 
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