"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she's my age but has a kid

Killer_Demo

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whats up guys, im talkin to an HB7 but the thing is she has a kid. she calls me all the time and invites me over the house even tho her parents are home. Is it worth a try or does this have trouble written all over it? thanks for your time
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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penkitten

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there are a ton of posts about single mothers and alot of guys here just dont want to bother with it and arent ready for responsibilites that come with dating a single mom.
going over to watch a movie with them isnt going to tie you into the family tree, however it can lead to a relationship and so on.
i was a young single mom and no one turned me down because of my child or because i had more than one child.
 

Johnnie5

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she has a kid , are you prepare to become a father figure ?

if not then be straight up with her that you arent looking for a relationship , if you want to hang out and have some fun then cool

only you can guage her interest level and what she wants, maybe she just wants to hang out and have some fun
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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backbreaker

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do you want to **** her, or do yo uwant to DATE her?

Big diffrence.

You dont' have to be a daddy to get your **** sucked. As long as she knows the deal and agrees with it.
 

salsipuedes

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I have a diferent view, if shes cool and shes going to be honest with you and makes you happy, whats wrong with her having a kid? i take a great woman with a kid anyday over a single woman whos going to be trouble anyday.
 
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