She's Married OR Looking to get Married?

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Background; Woman at the gym, guessing 30s age music teacher in high school. Ignored her for 2-3 years as shes ok looking but average maybe a 6 out out of 10. One thing going for her is shes fit like runner fit but not sexy flat butt flat chest. I started talking to her got to liking her a little more. Was going to ask her out for a drink but stopped because in our last conversation she said I was born in NY educated there work there but I CAME TO THIS STATE FOR MY HUSBAND (the state we are in right now is not NY)

I haven't talked to her since then assuming shes married and she preemptively Friend Zoned me but upon further reflection im not so sure.

1 - Since ignoring her shes been trying really hard to get my attention even after I rudely ignore her without even saying hi when we walk by each other but she seems to really want to say hi.
2 - When I first started to talk to her one day she wore makeup once and I walked up to her smiled and I said pretty lady which she appreciated.
3 - It seems multiple times shes deliberately wearing makeup and trying to get my attention by smiling at me as she walks by with her makeup on almost as if she put it on for me to notice her.
4 - What does the above statement mean "I Came To This State For My Husband"? Is she saying she currently HAS a husband now so don't think of asking me out? OR Is she saying Im LOOKING for a husband now just to let you know im abundantly clear of my desires but YES I do want you to still ask me out?
5 - Shes does not wear a wedding ring at the gym. Does that mean shes not married or just doesn't want to ruin her wedding ring while working out?

Thanks.
 

Focal core

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Shes married, maybe moving there because following her husband around, eg work place changes etc..
 

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She's married-next her. Why even bother ????
 

Mauser96

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Ask her

"You said earlier you came to this state for your husband. Are you still married?"

Her: "Yes I am, why?"
You "I was going to ask you out if you weren't...………..have a great workout"

OR

Her: "not anymore, we divorced"
You: "Gotcha. I'd like to take you out for a drink one evening, when are you free?"

We mind-read too much and don't grab our nuts enough and act bold
 

2Rocky

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Kind of like talking to a good looking blonde and she said "We", and "Us" talking about where "they" live.

So I asked "Who is the other half of 'Us'?". She grinned and said "my husband James, right over there."

I just kept on chatting "Oh cool. Bla bla bla"

Could have as easily been her sister or roommate or the family estate.
 

Kotaix

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Ask her

"You said earlier you came to this state for your husband. Are you still married?"

Her: "Yes I am, why?"
You "I was going to ask you out if you weren't...………..have a great workout"

OR

Her: "not anymore, we divorced"
You: "Gotcha. I'd like to take you out for a drink one evening, when are you free?"

We mind-read too much and don't grab our nuts enough and act bold
This, it's not hard. There's nothing immoral about asking her the question she obviously wants you to ask her. On the plus side, she wants you bad.
 
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