We see the phrase(s) "She's Marriage Material" and it's many variants like "She's LTR Material" quite commonly. Heck, I know I've used at least one in my past. And the phrase just yells AFC. So now I'm curious if anyone knows of a specific origin/period for this phrase (such as a specific movie, book, etc)??? Sometimes knowing the subset of our vocabulary that is actually the result of media/socio programming goes a long way towards breaking the AFC cycle.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"She's Marriage Material..."
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Usually happens to AFC's whenever a hottie smiles and is actually nice to them. Usually takes one conversations until they realize they have met their soulmate.
News story of the AP:
http://hosted.ap.org/dynamic/stories/B/BAD_WEDDING_JOKE?SITE=ALTAL&SECTION=HOME&TEMPLATE=DEFAULT
I laughed when I read this. I guess this bride must be "Marriage Material" if the groom still decided to go through with it a few months later. I think the best part was the wedding official. He just ended it and didn't cave to her tears even in the midst of the ceremony.
http://hosted.ap.org/dynamic/stories/B/BAD_WEDDING_JOKE?SITE=ALTAL&SECTION=HOME&TEMPLATE=DEFAULT
I laughed when I read this. I guess this bride must be "Marriage Material" if the groom still decided to go through with it a few months later. I think the best part was the wedding official. He just ended it and didn't cave to her tears even in the midst of the ceremony.
That's why this site has been so helpful for me, the ongoing awareness of just how much of my vocabulary is (er, was!) based on social/media based programming. Each time I read another phrase or catch myself barfing one out I laugh at how stupid it is and sounds.Gangster Of Love said:
MatureDJ
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To me, marriage material means a woman who would be faithful in a marriage, and do all the things that a proper wife should do (satisfy his sexual needs, keep her appearance as sexually attractive, cook, keep the home nice and neat, attend to children's needs, etc.) without being drama queen or otherwise disagreebale to her husband.
Of course, it seems that when someone says that a woman is marriage material, it just means that she does not want to pay the field any longer because her age and degredation or lack of looks have put her in a category where quality men don't find her so desirable, so she figures she must catch one now before it becomes too late.
Of course, it seems that when someone says that a woman is marriage material, it just means that she does not want to pay the field any longer because her age and degredation or lack of looks have put her in a category where quality men don't find her so desirable, so she figures she must catch one now before it becomes too late.
I think of the term as simply meaning an overall very high quality woman; not just in the area of looks.
The term does carry meaning not expressed by other terms. (OP), don't be so quick to brand every common expression as an attempt by the masses to make AFCs of all of us.
The term does carry meaning not expressed by other terms. (OP), don't be so quick to brand every common expression as an attempt by the masses to make AFCs of all of us.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
cpddavis
Don Juan
You can't just meet a woman and say that. You have to know her for a little bit to even have a clue as to whether she's girlfriend, much less marriage material. They'll fool you too. You think they are but they have a different nature. Its insane.
cpddavis
Don Juan
That said, I've said it more times than I should have. But that's what happens when you really love girls. You see the best bits, and damn the torpedoes!
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
She's hot, rich, and obsessed with me seem to be my base requirements for dating. After that it starts getting complicated because I'm not easy to please, especially if it's going to be long term.
-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
Marriage Material = Female DJ