She's into me enough, but concerns on pregnancy holding her back

[DJoneday]

Alright, so me and my girl were getting pretty deep into what we're willing to, and not to do as far as sex goes. She said she cared about me enough to do it, but was only holding back because she was worried about pregnancy (She was the reason her parents got married due to teen pregnancy, and their relationship went to hell). I'm ready, and besides that she is too.

My question is how I can convince her that with birth control, we can prevent pregnancy? I've done my homework and brought it up, but she still seems to be hesitant

 

[DJ Alejandro]

man, there's always a risk factor involved. pre-*** can get a girl pregnant. there's the chance of a defective condom. there's not withdrawing soon enough. there's irregularity with her period.

just live with it. when you say you're ready, it means to accept the consequences of whatever.

 

[DJoneday]

I was planning on getting her on the shot/pill and wearing a condom myself...

 

[Hot Ice]

Originally posted by DJoneday
I was planning on getting her on the shot/pill and wearing a condom myself...

Yeah. Say to her that she should get pills.
Also wear a condom so she can relax.

The pill + condom is really safe method.


And when She is concernd about this, she will thake the pill.



Jus remember to put the condom as it should be put. carefully.

Man, last time with my fvck-buddy the condom broke. there's always that possibility. She took the morning after pills, so I heard, so it should be alright. She JUST had a pause taking her pills.

I have a still slight chance of being a father in near future (yikes!!)
But I think as your girl is that concerned about pregnancy, you'll be alright.

Just be sure to wear a condom RIGHT. With pills you'll be alright and with that double protection you could easily convince her that there's no danger...
When she's on pill and you wear a rubber right, the chance of pregnancy is really minimal. like 0.01 percent.


Remember to have fun bro!

 

[Eternal]

If you really wanted the ultamite protection...You'd have a spermicidal condom, she'd be on the pill or shot, and have a diaphram with spermacidal cream. That, plus you pulling out could make it near 0.00000001 chance.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by crazykid
If you really wanted the ultamite protection...You'd have a spermicidal condom, she'd be on the pill or shot, and have a diaphram with spermacidal cream. That, plus you pulling out could make it near 0.00000001 chance.

Orrrr he could have sex with her pillow, its about the same.

 

[JSH]

well, most people out in the real world, would say its her choice, if shes scared about it (for whatever reason) then dont pressure her as its her choice.

I would agree with this up to a point because for some girls the more you pressure her the more frigid she will get, although others will eventually give in ( i know some that did and know feel v. guilty, especially one who is a strong catholic). IMOHO sit down and discuss it ONCE with her,about all the different aspects, then drop the subject.

 

[Hot Ice]

Originally posted by JSH
well, most people out in the real world, would say its her choice, if shes scared about it (for whatever reason) then dont pressure her as its her choice.

I would agree with this up to a point because for some girls the more you pressure her the more frigid she will get, although others will eventually give in ( i know some that did and know feel v. guilty, especially one who is a strong catholic). IMOHO sit down and discuss it ONCE with her,about all the different aspects, then drop the subject.

If it's about fear, it SHOULD be neutralised. By increasing safety or giving information.
If it's about guilt, you can't do much about it.


LOL at crazykid and Vincent!

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by Vincent
Orrrr he could have sex with her pillow, its about the same.

If the pillow is able to moan, go for it.

Either way, better safe then sorry.

 

[NRM]

Using both a diaphram and condom is bad news. Rubbing latex on latex promotes breakage no matter what kinda lubricant you use. Try rubbing two latex gloves together. Not so smooth.

If she's on the pill, she's got so little to worry about. And even then, there's always other ways. I prefer using a condom anyways cause I figure you should have some say in the birth control method rather than just counting on her.

 

[DJoneday]

These are all great tips on not getting her pregnant- Thanks all

Now how about how I should be talking to her about it? Just sit her down and talk about how with birth control we can almost definitely stop it? I'm just not sure exactally how the convo should go down..