"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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She's had stalkers before and is worried about giving out her number so I.....

TL79

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Built a rapport with a new girl at work, she has a boyfriend but isn't really into him from what she says (I know, judge by actions not by words, lol) She says she isn't into committment and doesn't want to be serious with anyone right now and I told her I'm the same way, just want to have some fun, etc. She told me her history of being stalked before and it takes her awhile to really trust someone, I am switching jobs and no longer will be working with her so I sent her an email and said something like 'Hey, you're pretty cool,lets keep in touch blah, blah, blah' I gave her my email and cell, she wrote back that she'll save my cell but she's hesistant on giving out her number because of what happened to her before, so I said no big deal and I understood why, she said she's glad I didn't take it personal because most people do, but that if something changed in her status she would give me a ring sometime.

I'm not really looking for her to call but I kind of gave her the impression that I could take it or leave it. I didn't want to come off as desperate but maybe I shouldn't have given her my email and cell and waited for her to give her info to me..............
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She won't call. Hate to tell you but she appears to just be blowing you off. But like she said don't take it personally, she's just not interested.
 

starplayer

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I agree with Scion. It does just sound like a lame excuse.

Remember, as a rule of thumb:
If a woman has high interest you won't be able to keep her off your d!ck. If a woman isn't interested then she'll have a million and one excuses to get rid of you.
 

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Thanks for the advice fellas, I was kind of thinking that also but just wanted some more opinions. I'm going to keep that rule of thumb in mind starplayer because it's definitely true.
 

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EVERY woman has had a "stalker" even if they didn't. They dream they are SO attractive that they had one.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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