"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she's feeling guilty - how do you respond?

iliketennis

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been seeing a girl who lives with her boyfriend and their kid. he's an alcoholic loser with no job or car. she's a HB9. one of the hottest i've ever had. we text and talk every day. I've played it cool, let her contact me etc.

last night we ****ed for the first time. we had made out and done other stuff over the past week. last friday she was angry at her boyfriend so she said to me in a text "next friday you can do whatever you want to me"

well today I get a text from her saying she feels horrible and she's not that kind of girl, etc. I told her no worries that i'd leave her alone, maybe some day in the future we can get together again. she said she likes me as a friend just wants to slow things down. i said that sounds good and ended the conversation.

undoubtedly she will text or call me again late tonight or tomorrow, should i just pretend like she never felt guilty at all or respond in some other way?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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iliketennis

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i've had sex with 5 different chicks in the past 8 days so please don't give me advice on spinning plates :). but these chicks were all only HB6-7s so that's why i'm asking for advice on the one in this thread.

and i've already told this HB9 girl that I don't want a relationship, that she shouldn't expect to leave him for me. i just want to have fun with her
 

iliketennis

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she texted this afternoon just like i thought. she said:

"i still think about u alot"
"does this mean we can't have lunch together anymore?"

i still haven't answered. need something from you guys
 

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If you just want to have fun with her why are you going on lunch dates?

Honestly, they have a kid together. If she wants you again she will come find you. Other than that I wouldn't actively mess with a woman with a kid in the first place.
 

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You're banging a chick that's cheating on her bf. If you're interested in just casual sex and keep banging her without feelings getting involved, just play pretends and avoid the subject of the guilt / downplay it. In this case, just text her 'Sure we can still have lunch.' or something along those lines.

And then invite her over for lunch at your place and bang her.

If you're considering her for an LTR, think again! A girl that is willing to cheat on her boyfriend for you, will most likely cheat on your ass as well. Think she won't? Wrong!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Real Talk said:
If you just want to have fun with her why are you going on lunch dates?
This.

Also, I think you're reacting too much to what she is saying. Of COURSE she'll say she's not "that kind of girl," what girl wants to seem like a slut?

Just be aloof about it, and keep doing what you do. If you invite her over and she says no, don't sweat it, just keep fvcking those other chicks and she'll either a) come around for more or b) she won't. I don't think there's much you can do really.
 

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This sounds like you want a girlfriend without the commitment.

You go on dates with her, and bang it out, and then you tell her you don't want a relationship. You somehow think that her existing relationship will prevent her from developing strong-enough feelings to leave you or at the very least to dump her current guy.

Cruel man, really cruel.

When I've got a f-buddy, we chill at pound town - nowhere else. The reason? If we start doing stuff outside of that, then she has a chance to develop the delusion that she's got feelings for me.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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