"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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she's feeling guilty - how do you respond?

iliketennis

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been seeing a girl who lives with her boyfriend and their kid. he's an alcoholic loser with no job or car. she's a HB9. one of the hottest i've ever had. we text and talk every day. I've played it cool, let her contact me etc.

last night we ****ed for the first time. we had made out and done other stuff over the past week. last friday she was angry at her boyfriend so she said to me in a text "next friday you can do whatever you want to me"

well today I get a text from her saying she feels horrible and she's not that kind of girl, etc. I told her no worries that i'd leave her alone, maybe some day in the future we can get together again. she said she likes me as a friend just wants to slow things down. i said that sounds good and ended the conversation.

undoubtedly she will text or call me again late tonight or tomorrow, should i just pretend like she never felt guilty at all or respond in some other way?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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iliketennis

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i've had sex with 5 different chicks in the past 8 days so please don't give me advice on spinning plates :). but these chicks were all only HB6-7s so that's why i'm asking for advice on the one in this thread.

and i've already told this HB9 girl that I don't want a relationship, that she shouldn't expect to leave him for me. i just want to have fun with her
 

iliketennis

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she texted this afternoon just like i thought. she said:

"i still think about u alot"
"does this mean we can't have lunch together anymore?"

i still haven't answered. need something from you guys
 

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If you just want to have fun with her why are you going on lunch dates?

Honestly, they have a kid together. If she wants you again she will come find you. Other than that I wouldn't actively mess with a woman with a kid in the first place.
 

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You're banging a chick that's cheating on her bf. If you're interested in just casual sex and keep banging her without feelings getting involved, just play pretends and avoid the subject of the guilt / downplay it. In this case, just text her 'Sure we can still have lunch.' or something along those lines.

And then invite her over for lunch at your place and bang her.

If you're considering her for an LTR, think again! A girl that is willing to cheat on her boyfriend for you, will most likely cheat on your ass as well. Think she won't? Wrong!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ARrocket

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Real Talk said:
If you just want to have fun with her why are you going on lunch dates?
This.

Also, I think you're reacting too much to what she is saying. Of COURSE she'll say she's not "that kind of girl," what girl wants to seem like a slut?

Just be aloof about it, and keep doing what you do. If you invite her over and she says no, don't sweat it, just keep fvcking those other chicks and she'll either a) come around for more or b) she won't. I don't think there's much you can do really.
 

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This sounds like you want a girlfriend without the commitment.

You go on dates with her, and bang it out, and then you tell her you don't want a relationship. You somehow think that her existing relationship will prevent her from developing strong-enough feelings to leave you or at the very least to dump her current guy.

Cruel man, really cruel.

When I've got a f-buddy, we chill at pound town - nowhere else. The reason? If we start doing stuff outside of that, then she has a chance to develop the delusion that she's got feelings for me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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