She's breaking up with her boyfriend: wait or move on?

[Sgthaytham]

This is basically an update to my last thread.

I overheard that she's ending it with her boyfriend today or by the very least by the weekend. She's pretty much given up all hope.

We're definitely attracted to one another and there's quite a lot of chemistry/banter/teasing going on between us, but the trouble is is that since she's in this transitional period, I don't think it's the best time to be thinking about asking her out. Please see my other thread for more info on the "signs".

My question is, should I wait for her to be "ready" or do I simply move on?

Keep in mind that I'll keep my options open to dating other women and I'm not confined to her. Cheers.

 

[NSX-R]

Do both.
Wait for her till she's more ready to bang another guy .

Move on in to fcking more girls and having more options.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Wait

Thought as much.

Is that a "wait and keep attracting her"?

 

[Sgthaytham]

Do both.
Wait for her till she's more ready to bang another guy .

Move on in to fcking more girls and having more options.

Yeah, there's this other bird who clearly likes me too... might ask her out and go on some dates on the side.

 

[RangerMIke]

First.... it is no 'accident' you overheard this... If she did not want you to know then you would not know. She is sending you a message shes going back on the market. DO NOT jump on this like a starving cougar... wait a bit (you judge how long, but not more than a couple of weeks) be a bit of a challenge, it will work out better for you in the long run. Women do this no matter how old they are, but when they are younger you will her this news through their friends. When you start dating women in their mid to late 30s and 40s, they just freaking come right out and tell you they are available.

 

[Sgthaytham]

First.... it is no 'accident' you overheard this... If she did not want you to know then you would not know. She is sending you a message shes going back on the market. DO NOT jump on this like a starving cougar... wait a bit (you judge how long, but not more than a couple of weeks) be a bit of a challenge, it will work out better for you in the long run. Women do this no matter how old they are, but when they are younger you will her this news through their friends. When you start dating women in their mid to late 30s and 40s, they just freaking come right out and tell you they are available.

That's a very good point. It was basically me, her and two of her friends at the table. The lecturer wasn't there at the time.

I was just pretending not to hear and writting **** down. Does this scenario change what you think might of been happening.

Thanks!

 

[RangerMIke]

That's a very good point. It was basically me, her and two of her friends at the table. The lecturer wasn't there at the time.

I was just pretending not to hear and writting **** down. Does this scenario change what you think might of been happening.

Thanks!

Nope... think about it... there are 24 hours in a day. If this was a 5 minute conversation, they pretty much could have had this discussion in any one to the 288 five minute periods where you would NOT have heard this. Trust me it was no accident.

The only exception is if the girl has absolutely no interest in you and she does not believe that you have any interest in her. Basically she thinks you are a friend, but since as you say she is flirting with you and you back, she knows you like her and she wants you to know.

 

[grayclif]

My question is, should I wait for her to be "ready" or do I simply move on?

I wouldn't be listening to any of her talk about a breakup. If she want to spend time with you she will make herself available. Do not try to be that proverbial branch that she swings to. In the meantime you should be spinning plates.

 

[Maximus Rex]

My question is, should I wait for her to be "ready" or do I simply move on?

Rex thinks that PlayerHer Man said it best when he said the following.

"If you're not planning to f*ck a woman soon.. why are to talking to her? Only talk to her when you are making moves."

 

[Ronaldo7]

Rex thinks that PlayerHer Man said it best when he said the following.

"If you're not planning to f*ck a woman soon.. why are to talking to her? Only talk to her when you are making moves."

This needs to be plastered everywhere. As simple as a formula will ever get.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Nope... think about it... there are 24 hours in a day. If this was a 5 minute conversation, they pretty much could have had this discussion in any one to the 288 five minute periods where you would NOT have heard this. Trust me it was no accident.

The only exception is if the girl has absolutely no interest in you and she does not believe that you have any interest in her. Basically she thinks you are a friend, but since as you say she is flirting with you and you back, she knows you like her and she wants you to know.

Do most girls detect whether a guy likes her back or not? Like a sixth sense or something?

I've always thought this was true.

 

[RangerMIke]

Yes... Women know intuitively the degree with which a guy likes them. It's not really a 6th sense, though it appears that way. They're just more observant and learn from an early age to read people, and also are pretty good at hiding how they truly feel. Men have this ability as well but we typically never learn to develop it.