"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She's bad on the phone

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With me anyway. It seems like whenever we talk, she's not excited at all. it's like she has no emotion. She doesn't have much to say at all either. i mean she stays busy (i mean you go to school, and you play for the bball team, ain't nothin happen all day). I have to rely on BS convo to get her to talk (which equals BS stupid questions, which are a nono). She even told me tonight that she was tired of the stupid questions.


But for some reason, she still feels like she needs to call me everyday. We went out for 8months before, broke up, no we're talkin again (and it seems like she wants to get back with me). But i can't take these weak ass phone convos, and these long ass drives in the car. She almost made me think I was a bad phone person. But I have great convo with every other girl I talk to on the phone (mostly because I'm good at starting a convo that involves them to do alot of talking). But i cant get her to talk that much. What can I do about this? She even texts me to call her, and when I call, we still sit there.

And what REALLY bugs me is the fact that whenever she gets a call when we are out somewhere, she sounds lively. Maybe it's just me, but she sounds more lively. i dunno if i'm imagining that but it really seems like it.

She is a great catch, I know there is a way to fix this. This would be the relationship's only weakness because we are all good whenever we are somewhere where there can be physical contact (Like walkin in the mall). But whenever it is strictly convo, :(

help please... there must be a way to really open her up
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Are you matching your tone of voice//mood with hers?
 

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I do that for a lil bit but it seems like that gets us nowhere so I try to add a lil excitement
 

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Do you know of any better methods of communicating with her besides the phone?
 

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texting works well.. and talking when we are close to each other (IE walking together).

We don't go to the same school BTW
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I guess it'll only be fair if I add the fact that she likes to complain about the fact that she's tired from basketball practice and she's sore and stuff. But she says she doesn't ant to get off the phone.

But one of the other girls I talk to has cheerleading everyday. She complains about being sore sometimes but that doesn't affect her conversation skills.
 
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