I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
who the **** cares why she emailed you back or what she wants
the only reason she has power over you is beucase you give it to her. just take the damn ball and go home. delete/go ghost forever
Don't reply to this latest crap, she doesn't deserve your time, emotions or attention.
DangerGive yourself some backbone and don't be the backup plan or ego boost for any EX who has a bruised ego/heart from getting kicked by another guy. MOVE ON.
Fatal JayWhen you break NC and respond to these type of women, you only give them power. Never respond and live a great life. Trust me, you will live on inside their head.
Yuppazher contacting you had nothing to do with her wanting you back, it was to see if she still had control over you and that **** boast women egos
don't do it again
[FONT="] [/FONT]With the way she treating you breaking up over text, you are very lucky to be rid of this one. The way to win in this situation is to not respond or speak to this trash again.
And of course, that’s the guy you agree with.Could be one of the two or a mix of the two to various degrees. As long as you keep control of yourself who cares if you tell her stuff or not. Go find better pvssy and tell her about it![]()
You got my intentions right on, Radharc!
When I got the text I waited basically 24 hrs before I even considered responding and when I did, I was so vague that she couldn't possibly read into whether I was missing her, wishing I wanted her back, etc. All she knows is I didn't respond at the drop of a hat like when we were together. I didn't give her any intel into whether I'm seeing someone else or if I'm really missing her or not and she now knows I'm not terribly interested in what she's up to either. All she knows is I'm doing great without her. I wasn't mean, rude or confrontational, so she can't get mad at me. That hampster in her brain is still turning away, I'm sure!! By the way, I got no response after, which I expected.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Probably right on the money.GotED? said:I find from 40 years of experience (myself fall for this as well at times, human nature) - that when an EX contacts you OUT OF THE BLUE after long NC, it is almost GUARANTEED that she just got dumped by another guy, or whatever sh*t she is stirring up in another man's pants are not working as planned.
Give yourself some backbone and don't be the backup plan or ego boost for any EX who has a bruised ego/heart from getting kicked by another guy. MOVE ON.
With respect,
Exodus
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.