Shes asked her ex to fix her car?

[d2j]

Been with her for nearly a year and its going great, i keep her extremely attracted, as you should.

The other day there was a problem with her car and i knew it was anything major so i said just leave it until u get a better car, as shes not having it for long.

Meet tonight and she said "i got my friend to look at it and its some minor problem".

I asked who looked at it and she said her ex and hes going to fix it.

i went a bit quite and she said "i hope you havnt got the wrong idea" and later i said "how comes u didnt take it to a machanic?" she said "im only getting him to do it because its 4 free.

i found a SAVED txt on her fone from bout 5 months ago saying "u and ur mates lookd fit the other night"

She also got a lift home from a nightclub from him bout 5 months ago..

and also, she said she that she texted him to ask if he would look at the car. BUT theres no messages to him on her fone. shes been deleting her messages and just leaving her gfs texts on there.

Am i just being a wuss about this ?

Or is it possible that shes doing the two time.. or is open to it with her ex?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Could you have fixed it?

 

[d2j]

Could you have fixed it?

I guees i know a few people but i don't want her to think that im tryin to stop her seeing him because im jealous

what would you do?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I guees i know a few people

I take that as a no...

but i don't want her to think that im tryin to stop her seeing him because im jealous

Too late.

what would you do?

Stop obsessing over it, it's not helping one bit and is probably making things worse.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

There are two ways to look at it.

1: This dude spent a few hours busting knuckles and getting dirty while your chick sat and thought about whatever stupid sh!t chicks think about and you chilled.

At the end of the day he was dirty, the car was fixed for free, and you screwed your girl.

Or...

2: Well, the way you're looking at it now.

Now for my humble opinion. The chances she's two timing with him are most likely slim to none. That being said, I find it innappropriate for a girl in an LTR to do such things.

That's either her man's job or a proffesional's job (assuming no family or family like friends.)

I wouldn't ask an ex to come over and cook or clean for me because my girl was busy.

It's just an issue of respect for my role as a man and her role as a woman
(this is assuming a commited LTR).

But then again, if you don't care about such things then there was no violation. Or, if you haven't made it clear as to what you will tolerate and consider appropriate then you can't put any blame on her.

Others may disagree.

To sum it up, yeah, what Fransisco said. don't obsess.

 

[zerocelcius]

There are two ways to look at it.

1: This dude spent a few hours busting knuckles and getting dirty while your chick sat and thought about whatever stupid sh!t chicks think about and you chilled.

At the end of the day he was dirty, the car was fixed for free, and you screwed your girl.

Or...

2: Well, the way you're looking at it now.

Now for my humble opinion. The chances she's two timing with him are most likely slim to none. That being said, I find it innappropriate for a girl in an LTR to do such things.

That's either her man's job or a proffesional's job (assuming no family or family like friends.)

I wouldn't ask an ex to come over and cook or clean for me because my girl was busy.

It's just an issue of respect for my role as a man and her role as a woman
(this is assuming a commited LTR).

But then again, if you don't care about such things then there was no violation. Or, if you haven't made it clear as to what you will tolerate and consider appropriate then you can't put any blame on her.

Others may disagree.

To sum it up, yeah, what Fransisco said. don't obsess.

That’s it!!

Make a statement about the house work that has to be done and meals that you want and haven’t had in a while. Than invite one of your ex's over to clean and cook... See how she likes it.


:yes:

 

[zerocelcius]

^Stereotypical?!

 

[Bible_Belt]

i found a SAVED txt on her fone from bout 5 months ago saying "u and ur mates lookd fit the other night"

and also, she said she that she texted him to ask if he would look at the car. BUT theres no messages to him on her fone. shes been deleting her messages and just leaving her gfs texts on there.

Of course she's deleting her messages - you're going through her phone! Cut that sh!t out. He's obviously an afc anyway. Would you give rides and free mechanic work to an ex? He's going to sweat and toil over her car, then she's going to say "thanks" and go home and have sex with you. And you are jealous of this guy?

 

[zerocelcius]

Or she is going to bang the $hit out of him and come home and tell you she has a headace! |Money|

 

[Bible_Belt]

Worrying about it, showing jealousy and insecurity, and going through her phone will all make that more likely to happen.

 

[KontrollerX]

"That’s it!!

Make a statement about the house work that has to be done and meals that you want and haven’t had in a while. Than invite one of your ex's over to clean and cook... See how she likes it."

Exactly.

The ex shouldn't be in her life in any capacity.

Though since this was a first time offense on her part you can let it slide but just keep your eyes open.

If you feel on a deep level that she is untrustworthy then you must cut her loose before she does this to you.

You may just be insecure like a ton of posters said or your gut instinct feeling may be giving you signs to bail out of this relationship before you get stabbed in the back.

Only time will tell but yeah next time you post let us know if this is the only time she's made you feel uneasy about trusting her.

 

[hbxdoode]

i think you're a little bit paranoid bro... maybe she's deleting his textes because she'll know you'll be mad, maybe she's looking out for you. i'm very good friends with my ex, once its over its over. i dont think you should be worried... you should be more confident in yourself, relationship is based on trust if you dont trust her then maybe you shouldnt be with her.

 

[Rudra]

Typical chick behavior.
For some reason, a lot of chicks think that their exes are some kind of service pool or catering/ driving/ whatever serving to them. So they just have to whistle. Joe, I need your car for the weekend. Jack, get me tickets for that concert please. James, change my wheels until Friday.

And a lot of guys play along with it... Just don´t sweat it.

 

[Hullothere]

you're a chump hbxdoode if you are still good friends with your ex - move on. I wouldn't let this behavior bother me but I also wouldn't tolerate it. Its simply disrespectful to you.

Since this is a first time offense you need to put your foot down and lay the boundries of the relationship.

 

[xdreamz]

definately don't obsess over it. be your happy self but definately be a little more careful what she be doing on her freetime

 

[kingwilliam]

I have always trusted my gut instinct and I swear it has never failed me.......I suggest you think deep. I agree with those who say that its disrespectful.

 

[Someone Much cooler]

she is outta line cause if you had another woman cook for you cause she wasn't around then she would be tight. your jealous and insecure. I mean there really isn't anything you can do about it? Maybe she is pucishing you for not being a man and fixing her whip. dunno?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I seems that there's a lot of guys out there who have their egos easily challenged.

 

[Someone Much cooler]

yeah. i agree, but we are only human, i wouldn't jealous as i would have been suspiciouis.

 

[penkitten]

why didn't you say "great, because i haven't had the time to fix it and i know you were worried about it. what time do we drop the car off to him and what time should we be back to pick it up? oh, do you need help paying him for parts or anything?"

then you own the situation.

what, is she going to forbid you to go with her to drop it off? if so, then she knows that you would not stand for it.