"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She works retail, said she wouldn't find out when she's free until today. Hasn't told me?

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We texted back and forth a few times, all was well and good. Use of emojis, interest in me, etc.

Last Friday, I asked her what days she would be free to get together, she said she's actually free tomorrow for a change but wondered if it might be too soon and said she could do a night during the week.

I told her I was busy Saturday night, which I was, but even if I wasn't I wouldn't have told her I had no plans that night. Then I said "we'll do a night during the week when you know you're free".

She told me "Could maybe do Wednesday? I will have to get back to you on that one though as I'm not sure what time I finish work, won't know until Monday".

So I said "I've already got plans Wednesday evening, but let me know if you're free another day when you find out on Monday ;)".

It's now Monday 8:30pm. Do I reach out and bring the topic of getting together again or just forget about it and let her contact me?

She said she'll find out on Monday and will get back to me on that one, but not heard anything and wondering what to do.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Low interest. Move along.
This is what I don't get. We haven't met and her responses to me were quite detailed. I work in retail too so you usually have to wait for your schedule the following week. Is it not worth reaching out, maybe tomorrow and give it a second chance?
 

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She said she'll find out on Monday and will get back to me on that one, but not heard anything
Read that and understand that. She said she'll reach out, she didn't. That tells you one of two things: either she forgot or she lost interest for some reason. Either way, let it go, move on.
 

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Read that and understand that. She said she'll reach out, she didn't. That tells you one of two things: either she forgot or she lost interest for some reason. Either way, let it go, move on.
I get you, obviously not worth wasting my time if she lost interest, etc so it's best moving on. But if she forgot, then surely it would be worth reaching out a final time just in case? Obviously not sending her a text straight away asking of her schedule, I'd build up to that again if I went that route. I do like to explore all possible chances before cutting it off completely.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm sorry, does "Use of emojis" now count as a score? Jesus.
 

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I get you, obviously not worth wasting my time if she lost interest, etc so it's best moving on. But if she forgot, then surely it would be worth reaching out a final time just in case? Obviously not sending her a text straight away asking of her schedule, I'd build up to that again if I went that route. I do like to explore all possible chances before cutting it off completely.
I get it. You should do that only if you're almost independent of the outcome of that action. Lower your expectations to 0. A woman who likes you and want to bang you will not forget, nor will she flake. This woman has at least forgot, probably flaked. If it was me in the situation, I would just skip, let it rest for about a week or so, see how it unfolds. Maybe she writes to you on Thursday. Maybe she doesn't. If she doesn't and you still wanna give it a second shot, send her a tex to hang out sometime around next week. This shows her you don't keep your mind in a specific woman (her in this case). If you text her tonight, she will get it that you been thinkin; about it and were kinda anxious. Be cool, do not contact her at all this week. Keep us updated on what happens.
 

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I'm sorry, does "Use of emojis" now count as a score? Jesus.
Girls I've had success with tend to use them a LOT alongside detailed responses, girls I haven't had success with or they weren't interested tended to be the opposite.
 

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Girls I've had success with tend to use them a LOT alongside detailed responses, girls I haven't had success with or they weren't interested tended to be the opposite.
Which emojis?

A sparkling or red heart, yes.

A smiley face, no.
 
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I get it. You should do that only if you're almost independent of the outcome of that action. Lower your expectations to 0. A woman who likes you and want to bang you will not forget, nor will she flake. This woman has at least forgot, probably flaked. If it was me in the situation, I would just skip, let it rest for about a week or so, see how it unfolds. Maybe she writes to you on Thursday. Maybe she doesn't. If she doesn't and you still wanna give it a second shot, send her a tex to hang out sometime around next week. This shows her you don't keep your mind in a specific woman (her in this case). If you text her tonight, she will get it that you been thinkin; about it and were kinda anxious. Be cool, do not contact her at all this week. Keep us updated on what happens.
I sent a text just now with a bit of humor and intrigue about my day which would make her wonder. If she asks about it, I'll tell her I'll reveal that information/funny story if she let's me know when she's free.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I sent a text just now with a bit of humor and intrigue about my day which would make her wonder. If she asks about it, I'll tell her I'll reveal that information/funny story if she let's me know when she's free.
One general advice: if you come to a forum like this to ask advice on how to ACT on a situation, don't act on that situation without collecting some advice LOL
 

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A bit of humor and intrigue? So you wrote "I wonder if you might like crap like this"? So wait, you thought maybe she forgot about your date, but actually really likes you a lot and when you texted she'll think "Oh yeah! I forgot all about my date with that guy I really like!!"? No.

Girls I've had success with tend to use them a LOT
Wow, BOTH girls from 7th grade? Nice.
 

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One general advice: if you come to a forum like this to ask advice on how to ACT on a situation, don't act on that situation without collecting some advice LOL
Sometimes it helps to experience/make your own mistakes first. I'm still open to taking advice though.
 

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Sometimes it helps to experience/make your own mistakes first. I'm still open to taking advice though.
It does, but you can avoid all these basic things. We are telling you what not to do. This is a super minor case. It should be in your books, too. It doesn't serve to be open on advice when you never take it LOL
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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