"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She Wants to Take a "Break" While She Studies Abroad

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I just saw your age - "19"!! And you are worry about a girl "cheating" on you??? There is no such thing as "cheating" on a pimp - loyalty is a condition reserved for your wife not a hor!!!

Don't worry about her --- worry about builing a life for youtself!!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Obsidian

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I actually don't think you should take it too hard. It's pretty understandable, imo. If I were going off to some exotic place for a while I probably wouldn't want to be tied down either.

That said, you should do like these guys said and forget about her. Date other girls if you find the opportunity.

I'm not real sure about the dumping her altogether thing before she leaves, tho. It's something to consider, but like I said, her feelings are pretty understandable. It's conceivable you might want to hook back up with her again in the future.

Of course, you could probably dump her and still hook back up with her later if you wanted, so I don't really know...
 

ThunderMaverick

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A break so you don't have to worry about her? OOOh so she's doing YOU a favor? Did you ever tell her you didn't trust her? How long have you two been together? Have you had trust issues with her before? Has she ever shown signs of being unfaithful? If you've said yes to all of these, then it's sure is swell of her to propose that idea.

Other than that it makes absolutely no sense. She wants to act outside of monogomy for her sake and put the problem on your lap. Like it's YOUR problem that she might cheat on you because she's studying abroad and might fvck someone else. If she said "I think we should break because I don't think I'll be faithful." I'd respect her more if she said that.

Just like a woman to shift the blame to you. Surprise surprise.
 
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ThunderMaverick said:
...If she said "I think we should break because I don't think I'll be faithful." I'd respect her more if she said that.
Actually, this is EXACTLY what she is saying...but he is too young and inexperienced to understand womaneese!!!
 

foamy

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I think she just wants some of that crazy European sex, as I would want that too.

let her go, she clearly wants to check out her options.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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