Hey guys, i'll give background info first i'm 18 (19 in nov), and amy is 17. Amy's cute but not hot. We both live in Michigan, and I met her a couple weekends ago. Last thursday I took her out to eat, and drove around with her (first date), and today she called me up for a ride home (she dosnt have a car) and said she couldnt find anyone else. Soooo I ended up giving her a ride back to her apartment. On the way back to her place, she asked me if i'd ever have 4 days off. I was like mby why? Then she asked me if I'd drive to Arizona with her to visit her mom. Her mom would pay for everything (only reason i'm even considering it) Now keep in mind, that I've only met Amy in person 3 times, and the # of times i've talked to her could be counted on my fingers. She seems alright, if a bit quirky at times, so she wouldnt drive me crazy on the drive down. But it'd probably be a 60 hour drive there and back. Thats one long @$$ time. Also I'd have to get my parents permission to drive it down there, I just use the car, I dont own it. On the up side, I could probably get us both drunk and sex her up a bit while there. But, I'd also have to take time off college, which I need to excel in, I have to do well to get into college of pharmacy. So I'm kind of divided as to what I want to do. I think it'd be fun, but it'd be one helluva drive, and I'd miss school, ect. . . What do u guys think?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
she wants to go to arizona
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First off, you shouldn't have given her a ride back to her appt when she called you. Your life does not stop and start on her every whim, where's your pride? Should have told her you were really busy at the time and that you couldn't help her, and for her to call a cab.
Secondly, don't give her a ride to Arizona. She's got some balls asking you to drop your life life and your responsabilities for her, when she has just met you. I mean sh!t, you've been on one date, you haven't even fvcked her yet, and she's asking you to take 4 days off and meet her mom? If you drive her, you may as well give her your testicles, because she will be their owner from that point on (that is if she doesn't lose interest in you, which is what will most likely happen if you drive her to Arizona).
Right now she is trying to use you for all you're worth, while not giving anything in return. That sh!t doesn't fly.
Be firm, tell her you're busy, and that you got your own problems to deal with, and that you don't have time to drive her to Arizona.
If she protests or gives you sh!t, tell her that she is moving way too fast, you took her on ONE date and she's acting like you've been together for months, asking you to drive her across statelines and meet her parents and tripping out when you say no. Then tell her you don't have time for that sh!t, and that she should call you when she grows up.
Secondly, don't give her a ride to Arizona. She's got some balls asking you to drop your life life and your responsabilities for her, when she has just met you. I mean sh!t, you've been on one date, you haven't even fvcked her yet, and she's asking you to take 4 days off and meet her mom? If you drive her, you may as well give her your testicles, because she will be their owner from that point on (that is if she doesn't lose interest in you, which is what will most likely happen if you drive her to Arizona).
Right now she is trying to use you for all you're worth, while not giving anything in return. That sh!t doesn't fly.
Be firm, tell her you're busy, and that you got your own problems to deal with, and that you don't have time to drive her to Arizona.
If she protests or gives you sh!t, tell her that she is moving way too fast, you took her on ONE date and she's acting like you've been together for months, asking you to drive her across statelines and meet her parents and tripping out when you say no. Then tell her you don't have time for that sh!t, and that she should call you when she grows up.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This is very easy one. Think about what you want to get out of the whole relationship with her. Now I am guessing you wanna fukk her silly. The question is are you going to get any on this trip and how much it is worth to you?
No if you decide to go wiht it...at least make sure you made out with a girl before you go. I'll repeat:..kiss her,make out..maybe have sex with her...I dunno,but dont go on this trip without knowing that you are gonna get some!
No if you decide to go wiht it...at least make sure you made out with a girl before you go. I'll repeat:..kiss her,make out..maybe have sex with her...I dunno,but dont go on this trip without knowing that you are gonna get some!
Would I do it for a guy I met 3 times? probably not, unless he was a player and could bring 2 chics with.
As for giving her a ride, she was lost, had no money, and no other options. Saying I was busy would have been kind of a lie, I was just lying on the couch reading a book, and I'm not big on lying.
Is she using me? Probably, I have access to a vehicle, she dosnt.
I'd like to keep my testicles thanks.
I don't exactly have the time to go either.
My gut instincts are saying no, so I think thats what I'm going to go with.
Oh and thanks for the advice everyone, MindoverMatter especially, you've made my decision a lot easier.
As for giving her a ride, she was lost, had no money, and no other options. Saying I was busy would have been kind of a lie, I was just lying on the couch reading a book, and I'm not big on lying.
Is she using me? Probably, I have access to a vehicle, she dosnt.
I'd like to keep my testicles thanks.
I don't exactly have the time to go either.
My gut instincts are saying no, so I think thats what I'm going to go with.
Oh and thanks for the advice everyone, MindoverMatter especially, you've made my decision a lot easier.