"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she wants to be friend

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After I met this babe at college and started the worst possible
Chat I could have with her only as a method to try my strategies
In addition, she told me that she wants to be friends...
Today I told her friend “a girl” that I became good friends with
That her friend might had understood me in the wrong way like I want to be her boyfriend and that all I meant was that I wanted a nice friendship and me saying that I like her was not a compliment ….. So what does u think?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think you're done. Learn from this and move on.

Next time, consider not telling the girl's "friend(s)" about the feelings you may have for her. Spilling the beans was, in your case, the kiss of death.

So basically, unless she really likes you and is playing some kind of game, you'd better next her.

-Bill
 

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Sho Kaun : "FINISH HIM"

(Screen gets black, she magically gives you a telephone and while she is talking to you on the phone, at the same time she is taking it in the ass by a dude in a biker outfit)

Sho Kaun: "Fatality"

You came off as a guy. To get a chick to want to let you put it in her ass, you have to come off as a MAN.

You should never have to tell a woman that you are interested in her. You assume she is interested in you.

If you have to TELL a woman that you are interested in her, it will not work.

I don't think anyone here can name one time that they "confessed' how they felt to someone and it actually came out with a positive outcome.

It just doesn't work like that.

You have to let the woman reazlie how they feel about you, like they just made a great discovery or some crap like that.

Oh, she didn't understand you in the wrong way, make no mistake about it, she knew what you wanted when you met her, let alone started talking to her.

She just doesn't want you, or doesn't see you in that light
 

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guys i told her "girl friend" that i was dating another girl and that i did not mean to say i like u....

so ?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Then I'll admit to not understanding your original post.

-Bill
 

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still i would like to to know your opinion
i think that 2nd girl "will definetly tell her tonight"
and i think i did a good job
 

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thank u i would like to add u to my friend list master
backbreaker
 

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When a girl says let just be friends it means she doesn't like you. Move on.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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though a girl that i met on the internet told me this could be possible cause she wants to know me first ....
 

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a girl on the internet who wants to know you first is desperate. regarding the friends bit, i'm not sure if i understand. you would be willing to provide a friendship to someone you dont want to? want to buy me lunch? a new mixer maybe? change my oil buddy? if you did this for me, i'd give you all the attention in the world... but i wouldn't touch your ass!

if she wants to be friends, and you dont, then that situation is done. if you let her control the situation, then you are letting her choose YOUR path. if you split now because she isnt working with your plan (of not being friends that is) then you didn't lose anything, SHE lost YOU. so if she comes back to you, then you try to get what you want again. if it doesn't work, then you really just have to move on.

never ever ever ever put yourself in a position where your motive relies on an answer to a question. you can never ask a girl for what you want, you have to get them to want to make you happy. then they will give you what you want.

don't talk to her friends for support, both of them just made fun of you, talked about the "new guy" and briefly discussed wether to blow you off or to keep you around. keep your feelings to yourself.
 
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