"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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she wants to be friend

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After I met this babe at college and started the worst possible
Chat I could have with her only as a method to try my strategies
In addition, she told me that she wants to be friends...
Today I told her friend “a girl” that I became good friends with
That her friend might had understood me in the wrong way like I want to be her boyfriend and that all I meant was that I wanted a nice friendship and me saying that I like her was not a compliment ….. So what does u think?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I think you're done. Learn from this and move on.

Next time, consider not telling the girl's "friend(s)" about the feelings you may have for her. Spilling the beans was, in your case, the kiss of death.

So basically, unless she really likes you and is playing some kind of game, you'd better next her.

-Bill
 

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Sho Kaun : "FINISH HIM"

(Screen gets black, she magically gives you a telephone and while she is talking to you on the phone, at the same time she is taking it in the ass by a dude in a biker outfit)

Sho Kaun: "Fatality"

You came off as a guy. To get a chick to want to let you put it in her ass, you have to come off as a MAN.

You should never have to tell a woman that you are interested in her. You assume she is interested in you.

If you have to TELL a woman that you are interested in her, it will not work.

I don't think anyone here can name one time that they "confessed' how they felt to someone and it actually came out with a positive outcome.

It just doesn't work like that.

You have to let the woman reazlie how they feel about you, like they just made a great discovery or some crap like that.

Oh, she didn't understand you in the wrong way, make no mistake about it, she knew what you wanted when you met her, let alone started talking to her.

She just doesn't want you, or doesn't see you in that light
 

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guys i told her "girl friend" that i was dating another girl and that i did not mean to say i like u....

so ?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Then I'll admit to not understanding your original post.

-Bill
 

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still i would like to to know your opinion
i think that 2nd girl "will definetly tell her tonight"
and i think i did a good job
 

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thank u i would like to add u to my friend list master
backbreaker
 

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When a girl says let just be friends it means she doesn't like you. Move on.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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though a girl that i met on the internet told me this could be possible cause she wants to know me first ....
 

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a girl on the internet who wants to know you first is desperate. regarding the friends bit, i'm not sure if i understand. you would be willing to provide a friendship to someone you dont want to? want to buy me lunch? a new mixer maybe? change my oil buddy? if you did this for me, i'd give you all the attention in the world... but i wouldn't touch your ass!

if she wants to be friends, and you dont, then that situation is done. if you let her control the situation, then you are letting her choose YOUR path. if you split now because she isnt working with your plan (of not being friends that is) then you didn't lose anything, SHE lost YOU. so if she comes back to you, then you try to get what you want again. if it doesn't work, then you really just have to move on.

never ever ever ever put yourself in a position where your motive relies on an answer to a question. you can never ask a girl for what you want, you have to get them to want to make you happy. then they will give you what you want.

don't talk to her friends for support, both of them just made fun of you, talked about the "new guy" and briefly discussed wether to blow you off or to keep you around. keep your feelings to yourself.
 
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