"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She wants long term i want someone new

trippychip

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Ok so how would i go about telling a girl im dating that i want someone new, thing is i still wana be friends, but i want some variety ya know?
anyone got any ideas?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I learned this lesson the hard way.

The easist way to handle these situations is to just not get into them in the first place. Don't see her/call her more than once or twice a week to begin with. Don't get her any sweet gifts/cards. Otherwise she will start falling for you.

I would try now to back off on how often you see her if I were you.
 

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Originally posted by trippychip
but i want some variety ya know?
anyone got any ideas?
If you don't want her sexually then why is having her friendship so important. Particularly when you know she will be heartbroken. I think you want her to be a friend becuase deep down you feel bad for letting her go.

Stop feeling sorry and start living your life. You can't minimize how people feel/get hurt in relationships. Do her a favor by being honest. She will move on and find someone who loves her truly.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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trippychip

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Originally posted by Royal-tiger
If you don't want her sexually then why is having her friendship so important. Particularly when you know she will be heartbroken. I think you want her to be a friend becuase deep down you feel bad for letting her go.

Stop feeling sorry and start living your life. You can't minimize how people feel/get hurt in relationships. Do her a favor by being honest. She will move on and find someone who loves her truly.
Hmm maybe your right, but i think its deeper then that. I dont just feel sorry but i like her as a person. She has all these ideas and i like to talk to her, but the sexual is not there anymore. I do see your point though, im jus hoping there might be some way to have both my cake and eat it too.
 
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