She wants a relationship, but can't commit

[Glenfiddich101]

Been dating this girl for awhile and yesterday, she wanted an exclusive relationship. I told her that it was worth a try.

We did some chatting on the phone and i asked her what was the thing that she fears most when opening her heart to a guy? She mentioned that it was the fact that she might not be able to reciprocate his efforts and feelings. Makes sense?

Upon further probing, She said that she had a very bad relationship in the past (Come on, who hasnt) and she's scared. She said that her relationship comes only after her family, job and friends. Shes better off keeping a pet i think.

After hearing all these, i told her that it wont be fair to me to be involved with someone with such an attitude towards relationships. I cant be the only always gving. I'll be emotionally drained.

Finally i told her that its best to just remain as friends to save us both the unecessary heart and headache in the future.

Did i do the right thing or shld i give it a chance?

 

[neobrood]

Finally i told her that its best to just remain as friends to save us both the unecessary heart and headache in the future.

Did i do the right thing or shld i give it a chance?

I'm kinda jealous... since you even initiated the "friends" deal. When a girl did that to me, I couldnt take it. I was frustrated and heartbroken.

I would jump into the relationship if she SERIOUSLY wants it.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Never get into a 'relationship' where you like a girl more than she likes you! She'll tiurn you into a chunp, if you aren't already one.

 

[Grey Fox]

You did the right thing. In fact if more guys around her did what you have done, the AFC population would finally start to decrease a bit. Now get out there and find someone else.

-Grey Fox

 

[Glenfiddich101]

Thank you all for your kind words and support.

I think i deserve much more than just someone who doesnt even know what she can give to a relationship.

I can tell when a girl is really into me and the bond between us. And i dont see much action from this one.

I guess its back to the same drawing board.

 

[WaterTiger]

I think you deserve better too, you made the right choice. Keep her as a pal since she's obviously not ready for a relationship. Good luck!

 

[darkofthematinee]

you made the right choice man.

I got with this chick who was really hot, and all over me when we were together , but only had time to see me every 2 weeks

I knew she wasn't cheatin or anything like that, cos I know her too well, but she wasn't givin me as much attention as I was givin her.

So we finished - its never worth the frustration...

 

[Blake]

She said that her relationship comes only after her family, job and friends. Shes better off keeping a pet i think.[/B]

Screw that, man, you made the right choice. If her job and friends come before the relationship then thats crap. Only thing that should come before a relationship is God and maybe immediate family (I'm talking marriage relationship here).

Girls like these are nothing but trouble. I dated one several months ago. Told me all sorts of sh!t about her bad relationships and just wanted a caring man to share her life with. She manipulated me into an AFC then canned me. Come to find out she's just a slut who probably says this to all guys to get what she wants.

Don't settle for 4th place in her life. She'll give all her affection to her family/friends and leave nothing for you.

 

[neobrood]

... say... this sounds familiar.

"I will only have sex in marriage"

She manipulated me into an AFC

Ok... I'm a newbie here... What do you mean by "afc"? "A f*ckin chicken?"

 

[FratAndDiddy]

it's all in the DJ Bible bro.......go read it.

 

[legolas]

Originally posted by neobrood
Ok... I'm a newbie here... What do you mean by "afc"? "A f*ckin chicken?"

Doesn't matter. I like this one better LOL