She wanted me to pay for everything.

[ARrocket]

There is this girl who had been showing obvious interest. I've known/flirted with her for awhile but never really made a move. She is obviously the type that loves playing hard to get, and she's really good looking, and so she has guys all over her (so she can get away with playing hard to get). I called her the other day and invited her someplace with me. She asks if I'm paying right away. I said I'd buy her dinner if she was nice...and she says "you're inviting me, you should pay for everything." I said "I don't think so" and she changes her tone, and says that the thing I had invited her to do was boring, and that she didn't want to go. I said ok and hung up. Today, as usual, I saw her at school, making and maintaining direct eye contact with me. However, instead of the usual smirk on her face, she seemed a little nervous....my question is, is she a lost cause? To tell you the truth, I'm not really that hung up on this girl, I just think she's hot

Should I just forget about her? Or is she worth trying a different tactic with?

 

[Monkey]

Next

 

[ezily]

If she seemed nervous I think you have a chance. You're probably the only guy who has stood up to her unlike all those other AFCs. Dude, I would definitely try again and use that same kind of C&F thing you were doing with her. She is not a lost cause. If she is that hot you probably just have to try a little bit harder. Also, she at least answered the phone when you called. That's a good sign I think.

 

[ARrocket]

Yeah, I guess she isn't used to that....but idk, it seems like a pretty bad sign when the first thing she asks is if I'm gonna pay right? Not only a sign of her interest, but of her character? Or am I over analyzing?

 

[Effington]

I ain't saying she a gold digger, but she ain't messin' with no broke...

 

[ezily]

no. she probably just said that because she is used to getting everything she wants. now if you don't want to try and play that game then forget about her. But if she's hot I still think you have a chance if you play your cards right. I mean that C&F stuff seems to work with girls like this. You just can't be like every other guy out there. That's the key with getting hot girls I think.

 

[Mctwist4]

Yeah, I guess she isn't used to that....but idk, it seems like a pretty bad sign when the first thing she asks is if I'm gonna pay right? Not only a sign of her interest, but of her character? Or am I over analyzing?

Naah. Sounds like her head's up her ass from all the guys who have treated her like royalty over the years. You did the right thing. Either FB her or move on. Don't buy her dinner.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Maybe she's insecure about being broke?

If you are not broke, then I am not against paying. Nothing expensive, nothing fancy, but if it makes her feel like less of a wh0re when I buy her a meal before we fvck on the first date, then that is ok with me.

 

[Jitterbug]

if it makes her feel like less of a wh0re when I buy her a meal before we fvck on the first date, then that is ok with me.

So she'd feel like less of a wh0re if she ****s for food? Nevermind, I just find it amusing.

I think ARrocket did the right thing, but regardless of whether he has a chance or not, I don't think this girl is at all good for a relationship after her tactless display of her gold-digging nature. **** her & chuck her.

 

[aldaris]

THE RULES:

1)pay only for pretty virgins.
2)if she isn't a virgin and you don't bang her after the second date you will never bang her.

 

[Beffing]

shes probably not used to a confident male like yourself, more aware of the common female. Maybe shes even a bit intimitated. Id play the same game youre playing, just as long as she shows interest.

 

[mackdaknife]

Wow, I'm having the exact opposite issue:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=139806

Perhaps I should just feel more fortunate?

PS: Some girls are very traditional. Is she that type?

 

[Bible_Belt]

you don't bang her after the second date you will never bang her.


Virginity issues aside, that is my rule, which is why I don't mind paying for dinner.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I think you might be too quick too judge. If she keeps asking you to pay her way and do all this sh!t. Then, you will know she is using you.

 

[JackPrescott]

If she seemed nervous I think you have a chance. You're probably the only guy who has stood up to her unlike all those other AFCs. Dude, I would definitely try again and use that same kind of C&F thing you were doing with her. She is not a lost cause. If she is that hot you probably just have to try a little bit harder. Also, she at least answered the phone when you called. That's a good sign I think.

Tell her unless you are sleeping with her, it's "Waiter, seperate checks"

 

[Phyzzle]

she says "you're inviting me, you should pay for everything."

She's right, I'm afraid.

 

[Birdem]

WoW, What kinda bull**** is that. So what you invited her, she should be happy just to chill with you that should be enough for her. In my opinion you should next her or wait and see how can she redeem herself. If she can't redeem her self( like pay for your dinner) you should next this chick in a heartbeat. You don't have the time and energy to deal with this sort of bull****. I'am still kind of shocked how someone can come off so rude like that.

 

[ARrocket]

So what would you guys recommend? She and I have a long-running joke where we both ask when the other is gonna buy us dinner....should I tell her that now she "has" to buy me dinner to make it up to me?

 

[Bible_Belt]

So drop twenty bucks on Chinese food for two, and then have sex with her. If she won't, then you never spend a dime on her again. The most you can lose with this approach is the ten bucks for her half of the meal.

 

[Tear Gas]

well, she does have a point of expecting you to pay for her due to the fact that YOU asked her out, but the fact that she said it right after asking her out was very rude of her..If you REALLY want to chill with her, i would take her somewhere not very expensive like lunch or coffee and pay for her...if you don't get at least a kiss after the second date i would drop her ass. Looks like she likes to use guys OR is afraid that you'll be like the last guy that took her out and made her pay...just don't let her use you if you know she's interested in you...

what did you ask her to do anyway?