"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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She waited several days to respond how to handle

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So I sent messages to several ppl on a dating site and got no takers but now, several days later, I got a response from one of them today. She looked at my profile several weeks back and then again when I looked at her's and then recently she looked again when i totally redid my profile. I know she had to of gotten the message the morning after I sent it cuz it shows when one is last online and she logged in early that morning. So I was like F her and didn't think about it again til I get a message saying I seem like a nice guy with a great sense of humor and she is very interested... I don't know what else she said cuz I just saw what was in my regular email and have yet to log back in to the site cuz I don't want it to look like I rushed to check it.

Maybe she took so long cuz I didn't message her when I first looked at her or maybe she is at best luke warm but she is attractive and I like her profile so how should I proceed. Should I stay with my instincts and not log in and wait til tomorrow and check it or check it tonight and not respond or check it tonight and respond? Being strait forward hasn't worked too well for me so I'm trying to work on building attraction however she is a single mom, and it's not natural for me to play these games, so I don't want to bs too much.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wow.

aron77 said:
So I sent messages to several ppl on a dating site and got no takers but now, several days later, I got a response from one of them today. She looked at my profile several weeks back and then again when I looked at her's and then recently she looked again when i totally redid my profile. I know she had to of gotten the message the morning after I sent it cuz it shows when one is last online and she logged in early that morning. So I was like F her and didn't think about it again til I get a message saying I seem like a nice guy with a great sense of humor and she is very interested... I don't know what else she said cuz I just saw what was in my regular email and have yet to log back in to the site cuz I don't want it to look like I rushed to check it.

Maybe she took so long cuz I didn't message her when I first looked at her or maybe she is at best luke warm but she is attractive and I like her profile so how should I proceed. Should I stay with my instincts and not log in and wait til tomorrow and check it or check it tonight and not respond or check it tonight and respond? Being strait forward hasn't worked too well for me so I'm trying to work on building attraction however she is a single mom, and it's not natural for me to play these games, so I don't want to bs too much.

Do you realize how pathetic this sounds? Read it over.....




Go out of your house and open 10 new targets, I would suggest deleting your online profile. Read the bible. Get some new hobbies or try hanging out with friends a bit more often. Online dating should supplement real life success w/ women - Obviously this is my opinion - so do as you wish, but it sounds like you need a real serious reality check!
 

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aron77 said:
So I sent messages to several ppl on a dating site and got no takers but now, several days later, I got a response from one of them today. She looked at my profile several weeks back and then again when I looked at her's and then recently she looked again when i totally redid my profile. I know she had to of gotten the message the morning after I sent it cuz it shows when one is last online and she logged in early that morning. So I was like F her and didn't think about it again til I get a message saying I seem like a nice guy with a great sense of humor and she is very interested... I don't know what else she said cuz I just saw what was in my regular email and have yet to log back in to the site cuz I don't want it to look like I rushed to check it.

Maybe she took so long cuz I didn't message her when I first looked at her or maybe she is at best luke warm but she is attractive and I like her profile so how should I proceed. Should I stay with my instincts and not log in and wait til tomorrow and check it or check it tonight and not respond or check it tonight and respond? Being strait forward hasn't worked too well for me so I'm trying to work on building attraction however she is a single mom, and it's not natural for me to play these games, so I don't want to bs too much.
Don't worry about that type of crap online. Log on when you have time, and strike while the iron is hot, and stand out. If she's even semi attractive, she's getting a hundred messages per day, she isn't going to remember or care how often you message her as long as your interesting.

And get the number ASAP, after 3-4 messages if possible, if not you become her online pen pal.
 
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