"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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she used to be in love with me but now...

dave007

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well this girl ..i met her a year ago..we started of really well...though i was not attracted to her..but yet she was like a very good friend of mine....infact im pretty damn sure she even started falling in love with me...though she kept denying it...anyways...recently there was some misunderstanding because of some of her friends who had spread the rumor that we were seeing each other(2 or 3 months back.)...it spoiled our friendship and i havent been able to keep up the same tension(this really bothers me..cuz she is responsble for tons of women ive met..and many more that i might meet in future...she practically knows the entire school)...but now she rarely talks...flinches wen i make fun of her(very unlike her)..never laughs at my jokes...and keeps telling every one that i am a very'boring' person to hang out with...which is absolutely impossible if i consider remarks of other females...she acts as if she is disgusted ...in short she does totally the opposite of what a girl wud do if she loves you...
what do i do??
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jack-Torrance

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Let me start by saying I am NO expert... but what I think is one of the following:

1. She is scared of admitting she likes you because you act as if you don't like her...

2. Her friends have said something about you and she feels she can't ever go out with you because of it...

3. You have become so worried about if she is going off of you that you really have started to become more boring because you try so hard to "say the right thing"

... I am no expert but stil... :)
 

Kiko-

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Befriend her then. Show her that you're harmless and that you can be trusted. I mean, if someone spread rumours, it must have leaked from either you or her. She's obviously blaming you, so keep her on the down low.
 
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