"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She Used To Be Fun To Talk To

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There's a girl I know at college who at used to be fun and exciting to talk to, but recently, some negative things have been going on in her life and now she's not as much fun to talk to anymore. She just doesn't seem to ever be in the mood to talk and i don't usually get a positive vibe from her anymore.

What should I do?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Stop talking to her and find someone more positive to hang around that doesn't let their issues effect you.

If she changes her tune hang out with her again.

Chicks in the end are not attracted to a guy that plays their therapist even if eventually they go through the motions of being greatful for your help and become your girlfriend for a while.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Stop talking to her and find someone more positive to hang around that doesn't let their issues effect you.

If she changes her tune hang out with her again.

Chicks in the end are not attracted to a guy that plays their therapist even if eventually they go through the motions of being greatful for your help and become your girlfriend for a while.
I was actually doing that for a little bit (being therapist-type bs), then I just thought "Yeah, this is ghey" and I didn't talk to her for three days.

But I do miss the old her, hope she changes back soon. Oh well.
 

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And just to clarify TheEdgeOf I think its a great trait to want to help people and hell even be there for them in a time of need.

Just not all the time and mostly reserved for family, friends and yeah even a girlfriend who has proven herself to you over a long period of time.

But a chick you are just starting to game?

No chance in hell.

LOL.
 

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KontrollerX said:
And just to clarify TheEdgeOf I think its a great trait to want to help people and hell even be there for them in a time of need.

Just not all the time and mostly reserved for family, friends and yeah even a girlfriend who has proven herself to you over a long period of time.

But a chick you are just starting to game?

No chance in hell.

LOL.
Lmao, I've known this girl for a couple months now, but it wasn't until recently that we actually started talking to each other. But yeah, the point is, I'm not sure what to do. The thing about keeping away from here until her mood improves seems like a sound strategy, so unless anyone else has some better advice, I'll stick with that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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