"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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she took 2 days to reply to me, should i wait at least a day?

big weezy

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i dont like these BS texting games of having to wait however long whenever she takes this long etc.

anyway 3 months ago i was introduced to this hot girl who speaks my language and turns out we both were abroad in the same city at the same time in the same local area yet we never crossed paths. she wanted me to kiss her, i was primed, i had my hand on her back i touched her face, i just didn't close the deal and i think she judged me for this lack of confidence to close the deal.

(the reason i didnt kiss her was cos something wasn't right, the guy who intro'd me to her kept hovering around, i got the feeling they came together to the club and she was his date but they weren't officially together, secondly one of his boys came over twice drunk (or pretended to be) and c0ckblocked me every time i was about to move in)

in the end she left with the guy but it's no excuse i should have kissed her, she was primed and ready and showed no resistance.

anyway, the next day i texted her seeing if she wanted to come out with me and my friends (she was only in town for the weekend) basically i f'd up cos i was acting AFC after i missed my opportunity tryna clammer back the chance which i know now was too little too late, few days later i called her, then sent her a text saying i needed to explain that night cos she must have wondered why i didn't kiss her, well she assumes it was lack of confidence anyway, no reply.

so i've left it for 3 months, im heading back abroad and let her know i'm heading back cos she mentioned she was heading there too at some point this year. she didn't reply to my text for 2 days, then did at 6pm today ('it's going really well, wow im so jealous! what are you doing out there? im going there in july xx'). i responded 5 hours later at 11pm tonight (ahh that's a secret ;) are you going for a holiday or to study again?', should i have waited at least a day to reply if she has taken 2 days?

i dont know what the rules are for these stupid silly text games.

she seemed like the kinda girl i wanted, in regards to the fact she spoke my home language and was really into the culture etc, it's rare for me to find girls like this.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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big weezy said:
then sent her a text saying i needed to explain that night cos she must have wondered why i didn't kiss her
Never, ever, explain such things to a woman.


In this situation and since its been that long, you really should have moved on and been out with other women since.
 

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oh yeah i've been out with other women, it's just she speaks my language and has heavy interest in my culture.. she's even taken a degree in my language. these are very important things i look for in a girl apart from her looks. since im going out there it'd be good to touch base with her cos we had chemistry.

but you're right. never ever explain things to a girl. bottom line is.. i was a pvssy for not kissing her, she wouldn't have resisted.. she was waiting for me.. u can't spend half an hour in total to make the move.

i guess it's done, unless i bump into her in person again somehow it'd be unlikely i'd be able to change her feelings towards me.
 

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Even my best friend takes years to respond... Do you know what I´ve found? She wants me to call her instead of texting. She hopes you get impatient and then call..Many girls do that (specially those that are too proud or afraid to call) ... (sorry I didn´t read all of your post)
 

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Quit worrying about the rules. Just dont be needy about it, and do whatever you want. If you would have waited two days to reply. Im guessing she would realize you waited on purpose. Who takes that long, really?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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