"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she took 2 days to reply to me, should i wait at least a day?

big weezy

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i dont like these BS texting games of having to wait however long whenever she takes this long etc.

anyway 3 months ago i was introduced to this hot girl who speaks my language and turns out we both were abroad in the same city at the same time in the same local area yet we never crossed paths. she wanted me to kiss her, i was primed, i had my hand on her back i touched her face, i just didn't close the deal and i think she judged me for this lack of confidence to close the deal.

(the reason i didnt kiss her was cos something wasn't right, the guy who intro'd me to her kept hovering around, i got the feeling they came together to the club and she was his date but they weren't officially together, secondly one of his boys came over twice drunk (or pretended to be) and c0ckblocked me every time i was about to move in)

in the end she left with the guy but it's no excuse i should have kissed her, she was primed and ready and showed no resistance.

anyway, the next day i texted her seeing if she wanted to come out with me and my friends (she was only in town for the weekend) basically i f'd up cos i was acting AFC after i missed my opportunity tryna clammer back the chance which i know now was too little too late, few days later i called her, then sent her a text saying i needed to explain that night cos she must have wondered why i didn't kiss her, well she assumes it was lack of confidence anyway, no reply.

so i've left it for 3 months, im heading back abroad and let her know i'm heading back cos she mentioned she was heading there too at some point this year. she didn't reply to my text for 2 days, then did at 6pm today ('it's going really well, wow im so jealous! what are you doing out there? im going there in july xx'). i responded 5 hours later at 11pm tonight (ahh that's a secret ;) are you going for a holiday or to study again?', should i have waited at least a day to reply if she has taken 2 days?

i dont know what the rules are for these stupid silly text games.

she seemed like the kinda girl i wanted, in regards to the fact she spoke my home language and was really into the culture etc, it's rare for me to find girls like this.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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big weezy said:
then sent her a text saying i needed to explain that night cos she must have wondered why i didn't kiss her
Never, ever, explain such things to a woman.


In this situation and since its been that long, you really should have moved on and been out with other women since.
 

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oh yeah i've been out with other women, it's just she speaks my language and has heavy interest in my culture.. she's even taken a degree in my language. these are very important things i look for in a girl apart from her looks. since im going out there it'd be good to touch base with her cos we had chemistry.

but you're right. never ever explain things to a girl. bottom line is.. i was a pvssy for not kissing her, she wouldn't have resisted.. she was waiting for me.. u can't spend half an hour in total to make the move.

i guess it's done, unless i bump into her in person again somehow it'd be unlikely i'd be able to change her feelings towards me.
 

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Even my best friend takes years to respond... Do you know what I´ve found? She wants me to call her instead of texting. She hopes you get impatient and then call..Many girls do that (specially those that are too proud or afraid to call) ... (sorry I didn´t read all of your post)
 

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Quit worrying about the rules. Just dont be needy about it, and do whatever you want. If you would have waited two days to reply. Im guessing she would realize you waited on purpose. Who takes that long, really?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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