AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
I've tied her up before, but I never let her tell me what to do before. Should I bring the ties? Or should I escalate and be unpredictable?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I certainly advocate not letting a woman tell you what you should do, but there comes a limit. When it comes to stuff like play-rape, the suspension of disbelief can only go so far - ultimately you can never cross the line into doing what she actually doesn't want you to do without risking criminal charges. You have to play along. Even if you do something that she dislikes and she doesn't call the cops on you, it's in her power to do so, you just didn't displease her enough at that time for her to do it. This at least to me makes it a futile effort to keep the pretence of being in total control or whatever up through the least detail and at all times. So what's the solution? mix her expectations up. Bring the ties, wrap them around her neck and choke her with them. Say something concise and c0cky that makes fun of her expectation that you'd only use this for tying her up. Then tie her up and choke her with your own hands.I've tied her up before, but I never let her tell me what to do before. Should I bring the ties? Or should I escalate and be unpredictable?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
It's not about not letting her tell you what to do.
It's about not letting her to tell you to do something you're not comfortable with or don't want to do.
If you love tying her up, then bring it. If not, then don't bring it. You should be happy anyway. She's blatantly telling you the kind of sexual stuff she likes. Too many women are too shy to do that.
Rollo Tomassi really pushes the theory that women expect men to 'just get it' and that negotiated desire will ruin attraction. He writes about it in depth in year 3 of rational male. The whole evolutionary psychology thing is a real eye opener.you are overthinking and too focused on being "alpha", take the damn ties and have fun man jesus.
What's next
"hey babe can you pass me that"
"no *****, i ain't let no ***** tell me what to do, i'm ALPHA"
ffs
Yes, women expect men to "just get it". However, asking you to bring ties doesn't mean you don't get it. There are many men who would be told the same thing and not even know what to do with it when they get there or would decline because they want to "respect women".Rollo Tomassi really pushes the theory that women expect men to 'just get it' and that negotiated desire will ruin attraction. He writes about it in depth in year 3 of rational male. The whole evolutionary psychology thing is a real eye opener.
I happen to respect plate theory and the rational male blog a lot. What do you guys think? And don't tell me I'm overthinking it. I'm still going to tie her up, I'm still going to give her hard D, I'm still going to have a great time, I just like doing my hw on possible **** tests, and hearing from actual people who have experience with hb 23 year olds, and gaining insight.
Don't forget the nightstick.Handcuffs.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.