She Told Me She Has Intimacy Issues

[dannmann92]

How would you react to a woman telling you that she has 'intimacy issues'? How would you interpret this?

*it's still in the early stages/courting phase

 

[Infern0]

What are the other red flags (because I know they are there)

 

[Tictac]

Just date her and find out.

Early stages means you are dating and that's it.

You haven't picked out the house and named the kids yet, right?

Well, she hasn't either.

 

[Tictac]

Well she added how she likes her space and doesn't like to be bothered. I feel like she was dropping hints.

You are over-pursuing. She's not going to use the phrase. But then again, this is not rocket science.

 

[Tictac]

I know but that wouldn't kind of spook you at all? It's kind of like well damn lol thanks for letting me know you don't like people getting close

No.

So you do think she was trying to drop hints?

To me it's just like why would anyone mention intimacy issues unless they're dropping hints right?

Yes.

 

[Yewki]

So you do think she was trying to drop hints?

To me it's just like why would anyone mention intimacy issues unless they're dropping hints right?

If you had options you literally wouldn't care

 

[Tictac]

Read my first post.

Back off a bit. Let her come to you. Do NOT pursue her or I,aging that you are in a relationship. You are going out and having fun. That's all.

 

[ohrein]

In my experience she's setting up an excuse for ****ty behavior. But that's probably just me. As someone else said, what are the other red flags because this particular "issue" is usually part of a cluster of issues.

 

[ohrein]

I took it as she's telling me not to get too close to her but I could be wrong. No other red flags. She's gorgeous, smart, well spoken, classy. She just said she likes her space and isn't mushy.

Which words did she use? Intimacy issues or likes space and isn't mushy? Because the second one of those is fairly reasonable, the first is a red flag (to me).

 

[Tictac]

Mushy, likes her space, even though she likes the guy if she feels like he's getting to close (emotionally) she'll kind of screw it up. That kind of intimacy issue.

Now you are embellishing what she said by injecting what you think.

Just go out with her. Have fun. Stop analyzing your own thoughts which is all you are doing.

 

[ohrein]

I mean Tictac is right, as of now you don't really have enough information to make any sort of judgement call. I wouldn't forget it but I wouldn't worry too much either. Just don't be surprised when she uses it as a "well I told you I was like this" at some point down the road.

But as Tictac said, just have fun and see what happens.

EDIT : I notice red flags seem to be over valued at times. You need a cluster of red flags to make a solid judgement. Everyone is flawed.

 

[Maximus Rex]

How would you react to a woman telling you that she has 'intimacy issues'? How would you interpret this?

Chick: I have intimacy issues.

Rex: Let's remix that statement. You have intimacy issues....with me.

The fact of the matter is if Beiber came over talm 'bout, "Let's keep each other company," her "intimacy issues," would suddenly disappear. Ole girl isn't trying to f*ck with you.

it's still in the early stages/courting phase

What does this even mean? When dear ole Rex reads this dumb ass excuse of a statement, he's reading between the lines and sees what you're actually saying, which is you've spent the past six weeks to two and half months trying to holla at this chick.

You've possibly gone a date, and got a peck in the check, and nothing more. She's agreed to other dates, but something always seems to come that prevents her from seeing you. In the meantime, you get into text marathons with this chick. Let her alone and mess with other women.

 

[17 shots]

She just said that to see if it would faze you. Women who talk like that are usually the biggest freaks.... these are the women who will tell you they're on birth control, but that they aren't ready to talk about sex yet... it's like we'll damn u sure are prepared for it tho

 

[dude99]

Well she added how she likes her space and doesn't like to be bothered. I feel like she was dropping hints.

Sounds like she is a ball of joy. Next her. Don't waste your time and money and emotional well being chasing a lost cause.

 

[dude99]

I took it as she's telling me not to get too close to her but I could be wrong. No other red flags. She's gorgeous, smart, well spoken, classy. She just said she likes her space and isn't mushy.

You're in the friend zone.

 

[marmel75]

How would you react to a woman telling you that she has 'intimacy issues'? How would you interpret this?

*it's still in the early stages/courting phase

Tell her to shut the fvck up and suck your d!ck like a good girl

 

[MrWood]

if you are ready to get your heart ripped out... date her, get feelings, love her
she knows herself she is damaged goods, wish my ex had said that.

let me guess, she is really hot HB8+ ?

 

[Atom Smasher]

"I have intimacy issues"
=
"I am a mal-adjusted nut job and I'm warning you about my future behavior so that when I blow things up with you I will be able to justify my behavior and live with myself. I will "feel" justified because after all, I warned you."

 

[Speculator E]

if you are ready to get your heart ripped out... date her, get feelings, love her
she knows herself she is damaged goods, wish my ex had said that.

let me guess, she is really hot HB8+ ?

Why don't you guys just tell him the problem? It's obvious he doesn't have a clue.

 

[Speculator E]

So because this chick doesn't like to be overly affectionate and says she likes her space she's a nut job?

Here's the thing this girl has been so chill. Maybe even a little too chill but chill nonetheless. Doesn't blow me up. Doesn't ask me a million and one questions. Isn't needy. So I'm missing the part where she' a nut job.

"*it's still in the early stages/courting phase "

Your exact quote. Crazy people don't show their crazy side at the beginning.