"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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She thinks that I stalked her?

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contacted via facebook: She stated, I saw you roll by my house yesterday, Why you stalking me?
give it up ;-(
She lives on a busy street, I was shopping on the same street she lives and took that street on my way home. She was driving perpendicular to the street. Live approximately 10 minutes away from her. What should I say to her? She probably thinks I was going out of my way to take her street. lie, tell some story, truth?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why would you feel the need to explain anything? Stuff like that is best ignored. Delete her from your friends, block her from contacting you, and move on. You stand to gain nothing by explaining yourself or apologizing.
 
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She is making accusations, but why would it matter to you? They are obviously unfounded. If someone did that to me, I'd cut them off completely and look for someone less complicated - no questions asked, no explanations needed.
 
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lol reminds me of someone(me).
went to the bus stop everyday for one week to make business with some pals and a girl from my class was also there.
result: 1 weekend later im ''not giving her enough space'':crackup:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jumpman23 said:
contacted via facebook: She stated, I saw you roll by my house yesterday, Why you stalking me?
give it up ;-(
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This is why i hate texting, IMs, email, etc. Sarcasm and jokes can be misinterpreted all too easily. Since you didn't mention your relationship with this girl, I would read this as playful negging. Why? The winking asciii at the end and the fact that she ASKED Why you were (ie. Do you like me?).
She knows you weren't stalking her.... but.... SHE noticed you and took the time to contact you!

I would play this as a joke and tease her back....

If she really thinks you were stalking her, she will reply with... "Leave me alone", or won't respond at all.
 
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Rook said:
This is why i hate texting, IMs, email, etc. Sarcasm and jokes can be misinterpreted all too easily. Since you didn't mention your relationship with this girl, I would read this as playful negging. Why? The winking asciii at the end and the fact that she ASKED Why you were (ie. Do you like me?).
She knows you weren't stalking her.... but.... SHE noticed you and took the time to contact you!

I would play this as a joke and tease her back....

If she really thinks you were stalking her, she will reply with... "Leave me alone", or won't respond at all.
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you know what? I think you're right Rook. If a girl really thought you were stalking her she would make it clear. This message seems like a neg on you. Just joke around back like Rook said. If she's not receptive then I guess she really did want you to give up.:crackup:
 
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Wouldn't you like to know? ;)
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Rook said:
This is why i hate texting, IMs, email, etc. Sarcasm and jokes can be misinterpreted all too easily. Since you didn't mention your relationship with this girl, I would read this as playful negging. Why? The winking asciii at the end and the fact that she ASKED Why you were (ie. Do you like me?).
She knows you weren't stalking her.... but.... SHE noticed you and took the time to contact you!

I would play this as a joke and tease her back....

If she really thinks you were stalking her, she will reply with... "Leave me alone", or won't respond at all.
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I think that Rook is right, that she might be teasing. Like Rook said, reply to her, teasingly, and see how she responds. If, like Rook said, says "Leave me alone!", then you know she doesn't like you, and you haven't lost anything. So, go for it, dude!

From Lil' Ben :cheer:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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****y and Funny is my advice
Something along the lines of:

Are you really that needy that you have to accuse people of stalking you? Or am I just THAT good looking? ( Only in Person and only if you can *handle* it.)

I Was stalking you? I was pretty sure you watched me all the time when i was shopping ( I would prefer this one )
 
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"Stalking you? Sorry babe, I was just trying to beat the paparazzi." Said very sarcastically. Freakin' attention *****s think the whole universe revolves around them...
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Actually a very good one it shows that you are masculine but on the other side you also put her on a podest dont you?
I dont know if by saying something like this, even in a veeeery sarcastic tone, you make her the desirable prize when in fact you should be
 
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its a **** test...if you look like you are worrying about what she thinks of you, she has discoveredthat you still have an afc side, though if you laugh at her show that you dont care etc then you pass the test
 
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Is she joking? If you make something serious out of it, then you've only confirmed what she's thinking.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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yo jumpman - immediately forget about this wacky basket case and move on...she ain't worth it. She sounds like she is trouble anyway.
 
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tell her not to think of herself as that important ;)
 
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more details like how you know her ect ect

i would just keep talking to her and completely ignore that statment though
 
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just ignore it. don't reply. don't delete. don't do anything. just ignore. unaffected.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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