"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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she thinks shes fat.... (how do i play off that?)

white_hype

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im about to go out with this really hot chick (hb9) and she keeps telling me how shes getting chubby/fat (shes not fat at all)

how do i play off that?

what should i say/do? or just ignore it?

thx
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I like the way this guy thinks.

How do I play off that? I should internalize that.


Instead of b1tching about women being insecure and unreceptive of his come ons, he's posting "how can I play off that?"

Keep it up man



How DO you play off that?

Fact: She mentions fatness.

Logic: She's insecure about being fat/getting fatter and wants to slim down.

Therefore you can use the reward/punishment system on her.

If she does something bad for you (ie throws a tantrum) , you could say:

"Gee, you're really stressed out. You should calm down. People who are stressed tend to gain weight really easily. Do you wanna be just like [a name of a fat stresses person you both know]"

when she throws a tantrum again, you just say:

"remember [name of the fat person]"


If she's acting nicely. (ie finished a love marathon on top of you)

"People who actively have sex, tend to stay fit and lean for life...
 

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I think as long as your response is something totally unexpected then you should be ok. When a girl complains about how fat she is getting, I prefer something mildly insulting and along the lines of:

"Yeah you've got a few extra kilos on, maybe you should join a gym...", or

"As long as grow some D-cups I couldn't care less how fat you are!"

"I don't mind, it's like getting two girls for the price of one..."

Take her out somewhere like playing squash, saying that you thought the exercise would do you both good.

I've spent too many years blowing sunshine up girls arses and it's gotten me nowhere, so now when a girl says something self-deprecating, I usually just agree with them.
 

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"As long as grow some D-cups I couldn't care less how fat you are!"
Be careful, she might take that as a cue to totally let it go... ew!

I really like Ice Cold's advice.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I would play it off by saying the classic line: "you need some cushion for the pushing". You have to make sure you are laughing when saying that.
 

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If she's not working to lose the weight or to not gain more weight, she doesn't think she's fat. She's an HB9, and she's just fishing for a compliment, like all women.

Your response should be:
"Most guys would probably agree that you aren't fat."

That sounds like a compliment, but if she thinks about it she'll realize that YOU didn't give your opinion. Mystery, compliment, and mind games all in one. Girls actually do pick up on that fact right away - or at least whenever I use that line.
 

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Most of you guys are missing the fact that he said she IS NOT FAT AT ALL.

2 possibilities...

She doesn't really think she's fat and is just fishing for a compliment (as Porky said, the irony of his name not withstanding, ha ha). If you know this is the case, then a C&F joke about her being chubby is good, but you should finish it with something compliment-like (such as, "c'mon you know you look good so don't front") which both calls her on her BS compliment-fishing without being a **** but also gives her the compliment she was fishing for.

(BTW, when did it become AFC to compliment a girl on her looks?? I'm more likely to pay attention to, etc a guy who tells me he likes how I look than one who doesn't. If a guy isn't attracted to me for whatever reason, I'm not going to try to make myself look better so he'll like me, I'm going to say "ok, next" If you don't like what you see, then you don't have to look at me. I know attraction is subjective, one man's meat is another man's poison, yes pun intended.)

The other possibility is that she DOES really think she's fat. And since you say she is not fat at all and really hot.... then you have to wonder about her self-esteem and body image. It's not your job to reassure women of their beauty if they're too blind to see it, but making a cruel joke is definitely not cool. She may have a seriously distorted body image and even have an eating disorder of some sort. While you can't "save her" or "cure her"... you don't want to contribute to that either.
 

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Say to her, "That's why I like you."

She's fishing for compliments so don't give in.
 

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Originally posted by Slickster
Say to her, "That's why I like you."

She's fishing for compliments so don't give in.
i like that, thx for all the replies

i might go with one of these next time she says something like that:
"the fatter the better"
"most guys would say youre not THAT fat"

something like that, thanks again
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

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Just say....

"Baby, it's not like I've never porked a fat chic before. " :)

...my gf used to say the 'I'm fat' thing.... that was 3 years ago. :)
 

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break out into song:
sir mix alot, " i like big BUTTS and i can not lie!"
 

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This guy is hilarious!

Originally posted by Ice Cold

If she's acting nicely. (ie finished a love marathon on top of you)

"People who actively have sex, tend to stay fit and lean for life...
Rolling on floor laughing out loud & laughing my @ss off!!!!
 
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