"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She thinks I have nobody else.

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I've been dating a girl and she has the impression that she's the only girl in my life. How can I change this? Should I just tell her I'm going on dates (because I am)? She has no urgency to hang out because she thinks this way. What should I do DJs?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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two cases are possible:
1-she's right and she's currently the only girl in your life. the fact that you care about this opinion of hers and magnify it may mean this is the case.
2- she has emotional issues. maybe YOU are the only guy in her life. know what I mean?

in either case she should not be your first priority.
 
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Don't react to it. Should you have other girls in your life it shouldn't phase you, there's always others. Be busy once in awhile, cancel a date here or there because you have plans.
 
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Industry said:
I've been dating a girl and she has the impression that she's the only girl in my life. How can I change this? Should I just tell her I'm going on dates (because I am)? She has no urgency to hang out because she thinks this way. What should I do DJs?
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Stop treating her as if she was the only girl in your life.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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