"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She texts first, you text back? or call back?

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long story short.

Single Mom 26yrs old from work who is a mother of 3 texted me (really high interest) she got my number somehow. (played my game right with her)

She quits and finds a new job.

1 week after qutting. I called her to monday to schedule from saturday movie date. Gave her till wednesday to call back and she didnt call or text to inform me that she can't make it.

4 weeks later (today) i get a text from her saying "hi verysuave, how are you doing?"

soo..

Should I call her back or just text her back.

and

should I

1. bust her for the disrepect
2. reply in a d1ck way

what would you do if a woman disrepected you?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Why not just respond with a simple "i'm doing great and you?"

Making any reference to why she took so long to get back to you is just showing her that you have been waiting for her message (which I hope you haven't been, come on).

Ontop of that replying in a "d1ck way" will successfully land you no pu$$y. What good does this do for you? You get a "high" for a minute or so just from telling her off? Please, we are not women.

Remember, you're a man who doesn't rely on women messaging you and lives his life the way he wants, when he wants it. He doesn't require women, but if they choose to come to him, he will take them.
 

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WC2 said:
Why not just respond with a simple "i'm doing great and you?"

Making any reference to why she took so long to get back to you is just showing her that you have been waiting for her message (which I hope you haven't been, come on).

Ontop of that replying in a "d1ck way" will successfully land you no pu$$y. What good does this do for you? You get a "high" for a minute or so just from telling her off? Please, we are not women.

Remember, you're a man who doesn't rely on women messaging you and lives his life the way he wants, when he wants it. He doesn't require women, but if they choose to come to him, he will take them.
true true about making references. tnx
 

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It took her 4 weeks to respond?!? A single mom with 3 kids? I wouldn't go for that. Sorry to make this comment, but I would not go for single moms unless you're a single parent yourself I suppose.
 

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I don't see any good reason to pursue her other than she is a woman.
Do you really want to be stuck with 3 lil f.uckers running around while you're trying to watch the movie?
Just because she showed interest doesn't mean you have to go after her. Think about it, have you really interacted long enough with her so that YOU can feel she has something to offer you that most other females can't?
If you are a low self esteem guy who's only qualities he seeks in a woman is tits and ass then go ahead and contact her. At least remember that the laid back approach is always the best one. So I would txt instead of call.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ey, tnx for the advice. Im gona keep it cool. I just replied back with

"doing good. hows life and what r u wearing?"

she replies back later.


Ive never dealt with single women around this age who have 3 kids. Are they gamed differently than the single 18-23 year olds?
 

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why would you respond with " and what are you wearing?" that just comes off as creepy and immature
 

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r0cky said:
I don't see any good reason to pursue her other than she is a woman.
Do you really want to be stuck with 3 lil f.uckers running around while you're trying to watch the movie?
Just because she showed interest doesn't mean you have to go after her. Think about it, have you really interacted long enough with her so that YOU can feel she has something to offer you that most other females can't?
If you are a low self esteem guy who's only qualities he seeks in a woman is tits and ass then go ahead and contact her. At least remember that the laid back approach is always the best one. So I would txt instead of call.
Good advice here. Except if you DO decide she is worth going after, I would call and not text. Still keep it laid back and casual, but texting before you even get to know a chick or have been on a first date is in my opinion a pu--- way of making contact. Sack up and dial.
 

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verysuave said:
long story short.

Single Mom 26yrs old from work who is a mother of 3 texted me (really high interest) she got my number somehow. (played my game right with her)
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1. bust her for the disrepect
2. reply in a d1ck way

what would you do if a woman disrepected you?
Don't date single mothers, you can't have anything good come of it. Drop the b1tch NOW.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Rhoto said:
Don't date single mothers, you can't have anything good come of it. Drop the b1tch NOW.
I agree. I dated a single mom. She was good at first...then the emotional problems came out. Then she became very negative and needy. Hell, I'm seeing her right now. I'm just trying to come up with the time to just drop her. I dont feel right telling her over the phone. Our next "meeting" will be a hard one.
 

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Kid Style said:
I agree. I dated a single mom. She was good at first...then the emotional problems came out. Then she became very negative and needy. Hell, I'm seeing her right now. I'm just trying to come up with the time to just drop her. I dont feel right telling her over the phone. Our next "meeting" will be a hard one.
so i replied with "im good. Hows life and what r u wearing"

she replies back with

"im in a bathing suit in a tub with my kids, other than that im ok"

i havent said anything since yesterday. I don't really care much about her. If she wants it, then come get it
 

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baurman said:
why would you respond with " and what are you wearing?" that just comes off as creepy and immature
it was daytime. Only the ones with the dirty minds think of it as creepy
 

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verysuave said:
long story short.

Single Mom 26yrs old from work who is a mother of 3 texted me (really high interest) she got my number somehow. (played my game right with her)

Mother of 3 at 26? Wow, she cranks them out fast. $100 they are not with the same guy.

She quits and finds a new job.

1 week after qutting. I called her to monday to schedule from saturday movie date. Gave her till wednesday to call back and she didnt call or text to inform me that she can't make it.

4 weeks later (today) i get a text from her saying "hi verysuave, how are you doing?"
"I'm doing great. How are you doing?"
 

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why are you interested in a woman with 3 kids? that's too much baggage. buy one get 3 free? am straingtttttt!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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