"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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she tells me on phone she's looking for her stocking..?

drift king

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i'm suppose to meet this facebook chick and she's been away for 2 weeks and been back for nearly 2 weeks now..i called her for the first time yesterday to arrange our meet cos she was ignoring my text arrangements so i had to speak to her to make it more personal..anyway she seemed to be busy so our convo didn't exactly flow the way i wanted it to.. she said she was going out and was looking for her other stocking.

i found this to be quite a turn on for a first convo and i started laughing drawing attention to the fact she was saying the right things to seduce a guy.. my question is.. if she was looking to wear them on her night out does that mean she was out to see a guy and potentially fvck him later?

just seemed inappropriate attire to be wearing on a girls night out.. plus it makes the assumption of our meeting not a date as i hoped..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dude why are you over analyzing this **** so much? If she doesn't sound interested in you, why do you care? move on please, and the stocking sounds like some bs to me.... and i dont think it relates to anything.... at all.
 

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DK, sorry dude you come off very AFC, like bawb14 said move on, keep those plates spinning.
 

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i just wanna know if she's indicating if she's seeing a guy that night or not so at least when i do meet her i know the situation of our meeting.
 

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drift king said:
i just wanna know if she's indicating if she's seeing a guy that night or not so at least when i do meet her i know the situation of our meeting.
Who cares who she is with man, she does not seem intersted. I would just move on to the next plate.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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drift king said:
i just wanna know if she's indicating if she's seeing a guy that night or not so at least when i do meet her i know the situation of our meeting.
Ok I'm a newb to this board but I want to take a stab at this.

How does her banging a guy that night change how you're going to talk to her? If she is a good looking single girl she gets attention from men, period.

Even if you get a date with her do you think she is suddenly going to fall in love with you, not get attention and offers from other men and not want to go out with them? She is one of many, what does she have to offer you to make her worthwhile to keep around?

Also - text arrangements for a date? If there is one thing that comes through loud and clear on this board it is to make things personal. Your personal influence should be a part of every interaction with a woman.

And talking to her about "her saying the right things to seduce a man" - you're giving her power over you.
 

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lol @ trying to find a stocking being "the right thing to seduce a man"

if a girl told you she had to go find her dirty socks would that seduce you too

fine bad comparison...but the point is the same. over analayzing who cares if shes banging other guys, if shes not banging you why are you even talking to her
 

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drift king said:
i'm suppose to meet this facebook chick and she's been away for 2 weeks and been back for nearly 2 weeks now..i called her for the first time yesterday to arrange our meet cos she was ignoring my text arrangements so i had to speak to her to make it more personal..anyway she seemed to be busy so our convo didn't exactly flow the way i wanted it to.. she said she was going out and was looking for her other stocking.

i found this to be quite a turn on for a first convo and i started laughing drawing attention to the fact she was saying the right things to seduce a guy.. my question is.. if she was looking to wear them on her night out does that mean she was out to see a guy and potentially fvck him later?

just seemed inappropriate attire to be wearing on a girls night out.. plus it makes the assumption of our meeting not a date as i hoped..
Alright, if I understand you correctly, you met this girl on facebook. Happened to got her number and text her two weeks after she returned from her two weeks vacation ( leave). She never responded to any of your texts so you decided to call her and lo and behold, she picked up. But somehow, the conversation is not exactly what you'd expect. She began telling you how she is searching for her stockings, and you don't welcome the idea because you suspected her of going out with a guy and possibly fvcking the guy.

Now, lets break it down:
1. I gathered you have never met this girl. You only saw few of her pictures (best case scenario) on facebook. Never talked to her prior to the phone call. You don't know what she does for living.... less you know, she is a stripper or a go go dancer.

Secondly, you must remember that you called her. I hope you did not call her "just to talk." When you call, know the reason why you call. Don't call and expect her to entertain you. If you had called her because you were bored, then you need to go out often and get a life.

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Oh yeah, if you decided to hang up because she said she was looking for her stockings and got you jealous, forget about her. It could be a sh!t test that you FAILED.
 

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no she was not trying to seduce you when she said she was looking for her other SOCK. :crazy:
 
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